In today’s world, you’ve got lots of flavors of K. There’s pre-K, TK and then the big dance – K – as in kindergarten. I didn’t attend any of them – not even kindergarten. I am not sure what was going on with my parents and why they did not send me to kindergarten. My mother says we were in the middle of moving to a new town and a new school district …blah…blah…blah. I’ve tried silencing my inner Judge Judy but it sounds a little lazy to me. Just saying.
One thing’s for sure. Back in 1979, if you were born before the “cut-off” (and your parents got around to enrolling you in kindergarten) then your butt was in the seat. No one was proactively held back from kindergarten due to their birth date. My first year of elementary school happened to be first grade and in my opinion, my lack of kindergarten has not been a hindrance. My husband disagrees. He says it explains a lot.
My daughter is a “summer baby” and turns 5 on July 18 and so we have a decision to make. Back in October, we dutifully completed our kindergarten tours despite the fact that complete strangers cautioned against the idea of sending a summer baby to kindergarten. COMPLETE STRANGERS. “Why would you want her to be the youngest?” “A lot of the boys will be a year older than her.” “You won’t regret it; just hold her back.” “Do you really want to be that parent who realizes in a few years that you should have TK’d her?”
Due to these well-meaning advice givers who seemed to represent only one side of the debate, I became absolutely consumed with the TK question. Do we send her to the big dance? Do we TK her? What is the right decision? I sought advice and insight from many a mother based on the road they had traveled before me.
It’s been 3 months since the kindergarten tours and I’m happy to report that I have calmed down (not nearly as happy as my husband). Our preschool teacher-parent conferences are next week. I know in my heart that this decision is ultimately ours and only ours to make and we look forward to hearing the advice from her preschool teachers, too, whichever way the coin may fall.
Here’s where I need your help. I’m very curious to hear from the groups that are under-represented in this debate, in my opinion. Let’s hear from the moms who held their child back and regretted it. Let’s hear from the moms who sent their summer baby to the big dance and have no regrets. Share your experience, Smarties!
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