CSP Team Note: This is final post in a three-part series written by Rebecca Wofford, a family law attorney and partner at Wofford Law, PLCC to help our readers navigate the divorce process. Read part one here and part two here.
Most clients are ready for the divorce process to be over and, when they have settled all of their issues, they breathe a sigh of relief. However, there can be issues that arise after the divorce is finalized — especially for parents. Here are some general answers to questions that arise for parents after divorce.
For a collaborative case or when parents settle their divorce issues amicably, a lawyer will most often prepare both a separation agreement and a consent order for custody and support. The separation agreement contains the terms for equitable distribution, i.e. the division of marital property, and spousal support. This agreement is a contract between the parties and is not generally filed with the court unless someone breaches the agreement or does not abide by its terms. Hopefully, you and your spouse will divide all of your property exactly how the agreement says you will do this and the supporting spouse will pay spousal support in accordance with the terms of the agreement. If one party does not follow through or violates the agreement, the other side would have a claim for breach of contract he or she may file with the court. This agreement is non-modifiable meaning once you and your spouse have signed it in front of a notary, it is binding and won’t be changed without the consent of both parties.
For issues related to children, generally speaking, we advise clients to have those terms included in a consent order that the court will approve. This document is filed with the court and is modifiable. Unlike property and spousal support, for children, our law does not expect parents to be able to ascertain everything that is in the children’s best interests for every year between the time the order is entered and when they turn 18. A child’s needs change as he grows. Read More →
By our Smarty friends at Charlotte Eye Ear Nose & Throat Associates, P.A.
Parents only want the best for their children, especially when it comes to their health. Sometimes, that means your child needs surgery, like the very common tonsillectomy and adenoidectomy. While the idea of your child getting anesthesia and undergoing surgery can be nerve-wracking for a parent, this month we want to tell you what they’re like and help you feel more relaxed if your child ever needs these surgeries.
Tonsils are small glands on either side of the throat and the adenoid is a small gland at the top of the throat behind the nose. Both are part of the immune system, but they have a limited role. Some people need them removed because they are frequently infected and make the person sick. Others need them removed because they are enlarged, which can cause sleep apnea, eating problems, delayed growth, constant nasal obstruction and congestion, poor alignment of teeth and abnormal facial development, and a poor disposition and irritable behavior.
CEENTA has 34 physicians providing tonsil and adenoid care. They perform surgery in a number of outpatient centers across the region. If your child needs surgery, your doctor will talk with you to find a facility convenient for you.
If your child does need surgery, the best thing you can do for them is to prepare them for a realistic expectation of the entire experience, said Lauren Hall, the Prep/Post-Anesthesia Care Unit Clinical Supervisor at the SouthPark Surgery Center in CEENTA’s Fairview Road location. Get a book from the library or reading about it on the Internet is very helpful.
“Please do not tell them they are ‘just going to the doctor,’” Ms. Hall said. “Every trip to the doctor after the surgery will then create fear and dread of medical providers due to the surprise of pain and confusion after surgery and anesthesia.” Read More →
By our Smarty friends at Signature Pediatrics
Did you know that driving a car when sleep deprived is as dangerous as drunk driving? The effect of being awake for 24 hours and then driving is equivalent to having a blood alcohol level of 0.10! That’s worse than drunk driving which has a cutoff of 0.08!
What has that got to do with kids? We all know how lousy it feels to be sleep deprived, but few of us realize how much our thinking and reaction time has suffered from sleep deprivation. Inadequate sleep really and truly has a detrimental effect on brain function. And as true as that is for adults, it has an even greater effect on the developing brains of children.
New guidelines for sleep in childhood have come out from the American Academy of Sleep Medicine and the American Academy of Pediatrics:
Age & Recommended Hours of Sleep per 24 Hours
4-12 months – 12-16 hours (including naps)
1-2 years – 11 – 14 hours (including naps)
3-5 years – 10-13 hours (including naps)
6-12 years – 9-12 hours
13-18 years – 8-10 hours
Regularly getting less than the recommended amount of sleep is linked to difficult childhood behaviors and certain pediatric medical problems. These include irritability, difficulty concentrating, obesity, headaches, high blood pressure and depression. In fact, the exact behaviors that can lead to a diagnosis of ADHD are identical to behaviors seen from inadequate sleep. Read More →
By: Sue Ann Weddington
Barre. Barre? Barre! It’s everywhere it seems. I have been curious and interested in trying a class however I just couldn’t see myself walking into a barre studio alone. Also, there’s the intimidation factor…I envisioned a room full of graceful ballerinas.
Last summer, my friend Lauren became certified as an instructor at Carolina Barre & Core and encouraged me to come take her class. This was a sign, right? I had to support my friend, right? Still, I was hesitant (me and all of the graceful ballerinas). And, I was nervous (me walking into a studio alone). I pushed myself to get over it and give it a try. W-O-W. I am so glad I did!
I have tried many different workout routines over the years. There wasn’t a “fitness flavor” that kept me engaged and committed for a long period of time. This all changed with Carolina Barre & Core.
The classes are very challenging and yet somehow they make it fun. The best aspect is the encouragement from the instructors. They are skilled at teaching how to modify based on where YOU are. They challenge and push you to YOUR next level. Class participants come in all shapes and sizes; there are many different levels of physicality, flexibility and strength. They encourage “progress not perfection” so you are not comparing yourself to others and are only focused on your progress compared to where you were the week or month before.
I go to CBC 3-4 times a week, usually 3 during the week at 5:30am and once on the weekend. Yes, it is that motivating that I get up that early to workout! I have lost about 5-7lbs and about an inch in my waist. I have more muscle definition in my arms and legs. My clothes fit better.
I have become stronger in so many ways – mind and body. I have more energy and love seeing the physical results. I have met some great people and always look forward to my next class, even at 5:30am!
I have found a true “home” at CBC. This is a place of no judgement and endless encouragement. The team is amazing! They always motivate me to do my best. Becoming a part of the CBC community is one of the best things I have ever done for myself.
Carolina Barre & Core
2901 Selwyn Avenue, Charlotte, NC 28209 Phone: 980.207.1046
By our Smarty friends at the Charlotte Mecklenburg Library
Libraries are more about doing than borrowing – more about connecting than simply plugging in – and your local librarian is your expert guide. Whether you want to get involved in your community, find a job, get smart about money, or build your digital literacy skills, your library is the key to your transformation.
National Library Week is celebrated nationally April 9-15, but we’re celebrating all month long with hundreds of free programs and a special book drive for kids in partnership with WAXN-TV.
Experience the transformative power of libraries. Then share your story with us.
Science is all around us—and it’s so much fun! Join us now through April 23 for special programs that are part of this year’s official NC Science Festival, a statewide two-week celebration of science, technology, engineering and mathematics. Participate in events for children, teens and adults, such as Legos, plant and sea life, coding, The Great Egg Drop Challenge, robotics, Rookie Science, technology and more! Read More →
By our Smarty friends at Mosquito Authority Charlotte
I can’t believe this is Mosquito Authority’s 8th season here in Charlotte. This venture was supposed to be a part-time deal that we did in the evening after work and on the weekends for a few people here and there. Today, as I drive around Charlotte, I am humbled and excited when I see our yard signs scattered through the different neighborhoods. (If you don’t see our signs in your neighborhood, we can fix that for you.) So many of those signs were made possible by a family we serve telling another family about what we do. Through happy families and word of mouth, our little business has flourished.
Ten years ago I didn’t even consider that there was an alternative to lathering up with DEET or hoping we had enough Citronella oil to go outside in my yard. Today, I am spoiled and often forget that my yard is a safe-haven from mosquitoes. When a friend invites us over for a cookout, I ask if I can provide a treatment instead of bringing a side dish. I have yet to hear a “no” and typically end up feeling like the hero of the party.
So I have a proposal for you: Let’s have a cookout at your place. Seriously! And yes, I’m inviting myself over. I’ll provide the mosquito-free yard, burgers, hot dogs, buns, chips, condiments, soda, water, and napkins. You invite your friends and we’ll talk food, traveling, baseball, Disney and mosquitoes. We’ll hang out for a few, cook up some food, and leave you and your company with full bellies & no mosquitoes. Read More →
By our brand-spankin’-new Smarty (so new she doesn’t have a headshot!) Mary Katherine Watkins
Hi everyone. For my first Smarty Pants post, I want to thank Jen and Cheryl for this opportunity and thank – YOU – their loyal readers for reading this.
I’m not sure what my Smarty Pants “voice” will be just yet, but I’m thinking it will be more “reporter” than “opinion” because, let’s be honest, there are a.lot. of opinions floating around right now and there are a.lot. of days that I don’t even like my own opinion, so why would you want to hear my thoughts on current events?
By our Smarty friends at Flywheel Charlotte
Miranda King, one of our rock star FLYmoms, maintains a busy schedule each week. She’s a mom to two beautiful girls, a loving wife, and a full-time marketing analytics manager for a financial services company. For Miranda it’s hard to find the time to maintain a fitness routine and juggle many responsibilities during the week. With her commitment to maintain a healthy lifestyle and motivation to challenge herself, she’s found her passion at Flywheel with high-intensity workouts that will continuously encourage her to push past her limits and Never Coast!
I’m a 38-year-old mom of two girls. It’s really like having two “only” children; one is 17 and the other is 3. I’m a manager of marketing analytics for a financial services company. Originally from Florida, we have been in Charlotte for five years and have fallen in love with the seasons, culture and food!!! Hence the need for Flywheel.
One of my friends brought me to Shane’s Thursday night Fly Beats class. She knew I was trying to get into a workout routine and hadn’t found the right place yet so she introduced me to Flywheel. Read More →
By Julie Hill, Middle School Learning Specialist, Providence Day School
In my role as a middle school learning specialist, parents often ask me for tips on how to streamline the homework process in their household. First and foremost, I think it’s important for parents to ponder what homework and grades represent in their family.
For example, my parents’ expectation was that I treated school as my job therefore giving consistent and honest effort. Communicating about academic expectations provides boundaries and structure within the family unit and serves as a foundation for future conversations.
After the hard thinking takes place, I consider the following aspects of the homework process.
1. Space. Think about where you do your best work. Does subject matter, time of day, or mood influence this answer? Traditionally, sitting at a desk in a room by yourself was seen as best practice. While that still may be the case for some people, my students have found success: stretching on a mat while reviewing vocabulary words, walking with a parent to discuss the topic of a paper, and sitting at the kitchen table doing math problems (amid the chaos) wearing noise-cancelling headphones. Read More →
By our Smarty friends at Charlotte Eye Ear Nose & Throat Associates, P.A.
Dealing with allergies can be a non-stop battle. The weather gets warmer earlier every year and spring allergies – pollens, primarily – start sooner. But some people have to deal with winter allergies, like dust and molds, too. Medicines can do a lot to reduce your symptoms, but did you know there are things you can do around your house to minimize your exposure to allergens? Here are five ways to help avoid allergens before they trigger sneezing and runny noses.
Keep your humidity levels reasonable: Mold grows in areas with a lot of moisture, and winters in the Charlotte area, like the winter we just had, can be wet. If you keep the humidity level of your home around 35-40 percent, you can minimize mold exposure.
Get rid of dust mites: A clean home can do wonders to reduce your exposure to dust allergens, which are common when your home is shut up during the winter. Therefore, you should wash your sheets in hot water once a week. You should also dust and vacuum regularly. While performing these chores, we recommend wearing a mask to help reduce symptoms.
Keep the windows shut: In the springtime you want to keep as much pollen out of your house as possible. Keeping your windows shut keeps pollen outside. Read More →