My husband travels almost every week which isn’t always easy for a working mom with an 8-month-old and a 3-year-old. I find it hard rushing home from work and usually come flying through the door at 5:20, rushing to get home so that I can have substantial time with the girls before it is bedtime. And when Brent is out of town, it is especially hard because I am outnumbered in the two to one scenario.
After rushing out of work to get home as quickly as I can, the best part of my day is watching Zoe run up to the door to greet me and seeing Annie sitting on the floor smiling and waving her arms in excitement. But soon after this treasured moment ends, the work begins again. I have to quickly get dinner on the table, feed Annie, make sure Zoe eats her meal, clean up the kitchen, get them in the bath tub (every other night in our house) and finally ready for bed. I have learned to do just about anything with one hand while holding Annie in the other.
This situation is not just hard on me, it is difficult for everyone. The girls miss their Dad and their Dad knows that he is missing special time with them. We have started to get use to weeknights without Daddy, and Brent and I have done a better job of preparing for these nights which can make a world of difference.
We try to cook bigger meals one or two nights ahead of time so that I can serve leftovers while Brent is gone. Dad always calls in and talks to Zoe before she goes to bed. She has learned to have a pretty good phone conversation for a 3-year-old, and we think it is important that they talk when he is gone. I also try to keep the routine as best as possible, but every once in a while we do a fun girl’s night activity, such as PJ’s on early and jump in Mom’s bed for a movie – which is always a big hit.
I cherish this one-on-one time with my girls, but I have to admit that on some nights I could use another set of hands to help. I am sure there are a bunch of mom’s out there in the same situation (working and not).
Please let us know of any tips you may have to make a night without Dad easier.