I’ve decided there is nothing worse as a parent then picking up your child from daycare and getting served the dreaded “incident report”. OK … maybe I’m exaggerating, but for the last week, I’ve been crossing my fingers every day before opening the door to Ryanne’s toddler room. Usually an incident report means that your child was injured in some, usually very minor way that day at school. But in our case, it’s that our child has done the injuring – as in biting, chomp chomp, on her little friend’s arm.
When Jake was this age, we also had an issue with biting, only that time, he was the victim. I remember having it out with the teacher one day,
“Why does this keep happening?”
“Is he the instigator or just a sweet innocent bystander?”
“What are you doing to stop this?”
“Why aren’t you watching the children more closely??”
The teachers even gave me some papers to help “understand” the issue. But that only angered me more as the papers only addressed what to do if you had a biter – not if your child was the one getting bitten. Wish I had saved those papers now ….
I am here to tell – having been on both sides of the fence, I actually think it is worse having the biter! Everyone tells me “it’s normal” and Super Nanny even says one in four do it … but WOW – it is awful when it’s your child doing the biting!!
So, to address my helpless feeling and wanting to somehow correct the problem, I did a little research. Here’s a couple of tips if you share my situation:
* Figure out what’s causing the biting. In our case it was the EIGHT teeth she has coming in … those molars and i-teeth are brutal! So we made sure she had plenty of pacies and teething rings at school that she could nibble on instead. I also gave her some Motrin in the morning to relieve some of the throbbing pressure. That seemed to help a lot.
* If the child is biting out of frustration or in defense, the best course of action is to keep a close eye on them, look for patterns, and remove them from a situation before the devastating chomp occurs … easier said than done for sure!
* Let your child know that its wrong by firmly telling them no and that biting hurts! And of course, never bite them back — it amazes me that people actually think that’s okay!
I am happy to report that one week and counting, we have not had any more reports of biting – a couple of near misses, but I think her teachers are watching her like a hawk! And to some poor mom out there, if your child has recently been bitten and is in Ryanne’s class, I AM SOO SORRY!!! (daycare’s never disclose which children were impacted) I’ve been in your shoes as well and know how much it stinks.
Been through this yourself? Please share your story and what you did about it!