“Mommy-ness” … You know what I’m talking about – when it’s “mommy this” and “mommy that” and MOMMY, MOMMY, MOMMY!!??? My husband and I can literally be standing right next to each other and it’s “Mommy, can you please get me something to drink?” or “Mommy, will you help me get a toy down?” or even “ma ma ma ma ma …” from the little one. This is by no means a slam on my husband – he is always there to help out, it’s just the default request is always for mommy. And it’s so hard to say no, especially when they look at me with those sweet little eyes!
“Mommy, I want YOU to put me to bed” or even just “Mommy, come look at this!” I guess I should feel flattered that my kids think mommy can do things best (ha!) but lately, it has been wearing me out! I mean, seriously, why does Mommy always have to wipe the poopy bottom?? But the best was just the other day (and what prompted me to write this post) … I was visibly busy folding laundry and packing to go out of town for the weekend when Jake came in and asked “Mommy, will you please read me a story?” So I very sweetly replied, “Mommy is busy right now, why don’t you go ask Daddy?”
“But Daddy’s busy, too.” which I knew was not true since I just let him off the hook from packing not 5 minutes ago.
“No he’s not …”
“Yes, he is … Daddy’s busy watching golf”!!! I mean, Really??
Don’t get me wrong, I love spending time with my kids and actually cherish that special time at night when Jake and I cuddle up in bed and talk about our days after reading a book or when Ryanne and I just sit and rock. I’m just talking about some equal time for Daddy 🙂
How to beat “mommy-ness”? Well, Daddy is a HUGE help – always ready to jump in! But the hardest is when they insist it has to be Mommy, then I secretly whisper in Jake’s ear that Daddy would really like to put him to bed one time and it would make him really happy if you’d ask him. Works like a charm 🙂 And if all else fails, I suggest removing yourself from the situation – perhaps a little GNO? We’ve had some reader requests for some smarty deals on happy hours around town. Someone sent me this great little site … not fancy, but gets the job done. charlottehappyhour.com – click on a particular day of the week and then area you’re interested in and VOILA – all the happy hour specials in that area. Cheers!
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My favorite example of "mommyness" is when my twins yell from the bathroom "WIPE MY BOTTOM!" If daddy ever tries to do it, they scream "No, I want mommy to do it!" I swear, Randy trained them to do this…
OMG… you are so funny and summed up my world in you blog today. I am laughing out loud. Love it!
I actually remember doing this to MY Mother! Now that I am a Mom. I try to keep it even between parents, pushing some of towards my husband, but as a SAHM, I am forced to deal with it even more so! By the way…I have called my Mom to apologize for doing this – and MANY other things as a child!!!
"mommy" sometimes becomes a song my toddler sings, the only word to the song is "mommy". the song goes like this: "mommy mommy mommy mommy" you get the idea! it was cute the first time…
I think sometimes I am the only one who experiences this! But, it's good to know I am not alone! We just got home from a 10 day trip where I was 24/7 on the clock (yes, my husband was there too and always a great help) but the number of times "Mommy" was called out from the back seat of the car is way too high to count! My husband even asked the kids to not say "Mommy" for 5 minutes and I swear 5 seconds later my middle child called it out, again! Oh my! Jessica Walsh
I guess I'm lucky – or not – because my 3 year-old son Gabe only wants his daddy to do EVERYTHING. If daddy's not home, then I get to be the parent and have the fun, but as soon as his father walks in the door, I might as well not even be there. I tried to get Gabe ready for bed one night (potty, pajamas, breathing treatment and books – pretty simple and fun, for the most part) and Gabe threw such a fit that he threw up! Seriously! I know it has to be exhausting for my husband to do it all from the minute he gets home from work until bedtime. Maybe someday I'll get to experience the fun of doing everything else, and my husband can make dinner, clean the kitchen and do allthe evening chores instead.
Funny, I'm with my kids all day long and when my husband comes home from work, it's like I'm chopped liver all of a sudden until they go to bed. What's up with that?? LOL.
Caroline, my girls used to that. Even to the extent of when they were really, really sick, you know, when you probably want mommy. Not mine. When both girls had their tonsils out and were coming out of anesthesia, only one parent can be back there at a time. So I was the natural choice since I was w/them most of the time. As soon as they woke up (separate surgeries 2 years apart), they cried their eyes out not necessarily for the pain, but because I was not daddy! I felt pretty lousy at that moment! Now I have two cling-on boys who love, love, love their mama:-) Maybe it's a boy thing?
Just the other day, my husband, who works from home, was standing in the kitchen with the rest of the family when my son asked, "Mom, is Dad off work now?" My husband and I looked at each other and laughed and he said to our son, "I'm standing right here. Can't you ask me?" Mommy's are the go to queens!!!