To three, or not to three – that is the question. Those who know me have heard me defiantly swear off a third child. When asked, my routine reply is “No hell no.”
The USS Bowman sailed mostly smooth seas after saying bye bye to our DINKS (dual income no kids) life and having our daughter. The recovery period was pretty short and our attitude was “we’ve got this”.
Since the birth of our second nearly two years ago, I became president of the “two and through” club. I’ll tell anyone who will listen that the transition from one to two definitely wrecked shop in our world.
When I consult with my life coach, my 4-year-old daughter, on whether we should have another baby her answer is always and emphatically “NO”. Her latest response when I probed further was “I can’t teach two babies.” Fair enough.
I often refer to my youngest as my “social anchor” because if there’s a reason we can’t do something as a family or with another family it’s due to the nap or early bedtime (to preserve everyone’s sanity) or the activity is not age appropriate for a 22-month-old.
REASONS TO REMAIN PRESIDENT OF “TWO AND THROUGH” CLUB
(1) We have replaced ourselves. There are two of us (my husband and I) and we have two children. Done.
(2) My marriage.
(3) Preserve the “millionaire’s family”. (one boy and one girl – which to a lot of families is as good as winning the lottery or a million dollars)
(4) I’ll be out of nap jail soon.
REASONS TO THREE
(1) I see our family as having three adult children in the future.
(2) Three is the new two.
(3) I would definitely be granted my dream ride. . . the minivan.
(4) The years are short and the days are long and family makes the highs the highest and the lows bearable.
Other members of the Smarty tribe (Jenny and Dana) have also wrestled with the expansion to three.
What camp are you in? One and done? Two and through? Three, let’s see? Four and maybe more?
Stay tuned next Monday for Lisa’s take on One and Done.