February 5, 2008

Charlotte Smarty Pants Legacy: Jennifer Lisman Bunich


Jennifer Lisman Bunich: September 10, 1971 – February 4, 2008

It is with an unbelievably broken heart that I type this post. My best friend, partner in crime, confidant, and everything else in the world to me passed away this morning due to a sudden illness. I still can’t believe she is gone and I’m just fumbling through the day trying to put one foot in front of the other.

Jen and I met back in 1998 when we worked together at an advertising agency in town. We quickly became friends and have enjoyed so many incredibly fun times together. We were swingin’ single at the time and celebrated many a nights at Have A Nice Day Cafe (when they played true 70’s disco music only!) and Bar Charlotte. Then I got married and my party-hearty nights slowed down a little. Jen continued on the social scene until she met Boris, the love of her life. I remember the first time I met him, I knew that he was the one. Not too long after they got married, they became pregnant with Claire. And what an incredible gift she was! The true sparkle in Jen’s eyes. Claire looks just like her daddy but her personality has so much of Jen. She is already showing signs of true brilliance – ok, maybe I’m a little biased here! But this little girl is one smart cookie! She is the perfect combination of her mommy and daddy.

Jen had a mesmerizing affect on everyone she met. She gave 300% to every person she knew and focused very little on herself. It was all of the little thoughtful things that she did that would make you in awe. Like, if you ever called and said you were having a bad day, she would make a photo collage and drop it in the mail. She was such a historian – documented every single detail of her life with photos and scrapbooks. Any time we went on a trip together, I never even bothered to bring my camera because she would capture everything in such a beautiful, photojournalistic style. She was so talented in her work in advertising. She is one of the very few people I know who loved her job. That says so much about the integrity of the management team and staff at Wray Ward. Advertising is such a tough field and all-consuming. But the folks at Wray Ward really know how to balance personal life and work and it truly shows through their employees. And I know Jen was grateful for that.

Jen was perfect in all aspects of her life. She was a loving wife. Do you remember when she asked for our help with recipes to cook for her hubby? We joked this weekend that this was her way of getting Boris some decent home-cooked meals! She was a doting mother – Claire could do no wrong in Jen’s eyes and she was the most incredible mother I have ever known. She was a perfect daughter – for every milestone in her parent’s lives, she would come up with a beautiful DVD to chronicle the event, no matter how busy Jen’s personal life was. She was an amazing big sister/sister-in-law. I know her baby brothers are just devastated and so looked up to her. And she was the best friend you could ever have. I’m so sad that I never officially told her that. She was and forever will be my true inspiration in life.

Jen is the true reason behind Charlotte Smarty Pants. It was my idea to an extent but I never would have done anything with it. Jen pushed me to create it and launch it during a busy time before the holidays. It’s almost as if she knew we had to get this thing done. I kept asking her, why do we HAVE to launch right before Thanksgiving. Her answer: we just do. And she was so right in so many ways. Her vision was Charlotte Smarty Pants and this will be her legacy. It was her gift to me and to all of you. And I will not let her down. I’m going to take a few days off to mourn the loss of my best friend. I hope you will understand. But I will be back – maybe not as funny, but I’ll do my best.

Thank you for all of your support over the past few months. It meant so much to Jen. She tracked every bit of this website and it made her smile every day. Jen will be missed in so many ways.

Fondly, Jen P.

Below are the eulogies read at Jennifer’s service:
By Boris Bunich
Husband

Jennifer was the most amazing person that I have ever met in my life. From the first moment I saw her, her energy, creativity and passion infected me to the core. I was completely smitten by her within 5 minutes and every time she smiled at me I was drawn further and further in.

As all of us here are aware, no matter what her impact on our lives was, she made it impossible to not be astounded by her sense of commitment to everything she did.

In the six wonderful years that I spent with her, there are 100 million ways that she brought light into my life. Every day, without looking like she was even trying, she did something that would leave me breathless. Her commitment to me and to Claire was beyond any words, but it made both of us feel as if we were the most special people in the universe. Her commitment to her family and friends was just as strong.

I know that I didn’t deserve Jennifer, and although I never told her that, I am sure that she knew it too, because Himanshu, who was my best man, recently admitted to me that the only thing that he told her at my wedding was exactly those words… ”that I didn’t deserve her”.

One of Jennifer’s most passionate endeavors was co-creating Charlotte Smarty Pants, a website to provide an online community for moms. On that website, when she wrote about her New Year’s resolution, she said it was to do a better job feeding her husband. I cannot even begin to describe the amount of food that I have received from friends and neighbors over the past two weeks. So even in her passing, Jennifer is still fulfilling her promises

I am so saddened that she is gone. But I am so lucky that she left me with Claire who is such an unbelievable reflection of her mommy.

Jennifer spent her time as an angel on Earth bringing special moments and love to each one of us.

She is now and angel in Heaven and we are all lucky that she’ll still be around to watch over us and love us from above.

I will miss her and love her always.

Faith
By Scott Lisman, Brother

I am Scott Lisman, Jennifer’s Brother. I want to express my appreciation for all that everyone has done. This is a hard time for my family and your thoughts and prayers have helped ease this emotional burden.

I want to speak about my sister’s faith. Faith is defined as “confidence or trust in a person or thing.”
My sister had faith in God, that I know. First Corinthians, Chapter 2, paragraph 5 states that “Faith should not stand in the wisdom of men, but in the power of god.” I believe that Jennifer knew that and that her faith in herself, others and the lord came from her faith in God.
Jennifer expressed her faith in so many ways and it was what made her such an amazing person. She had in others, counseling, aiding and pushing them to greatness. I was among the lucky individuals whom she poured her faith into and I would like to share three memories of her faith:
1. Jennifer flew down to see my son when he was only 4 months old. While she was there, she wanted photos of my wife, me and Jack together as well as photos of herself and Jack. I did not really think we needed more pictures as we already had 100s of photos, but Jen insisted. These photos adorn my office, our house and are probably the best photos of our family during the six months of my son’s life. Jennifer had faith that she was right and that these photos would be a gift to us.
2. When I was around 9-10 years old, I had a bad day. I do not remember why but I came to dinner very grouchy and depressed. Jennifer told that she could make me smile and I informed that she was mistaken. Thirty minutes later the entire family was laughing, myself included, while Jen told stories. Jennifer had faith in herself when she was only in her teens that she could make my day a little bit better.
3. I attended the College of William and Mary (Go Tribe) and during move-in day, Jennifer helped me to move in. I was sitting outside waiting for something and she sat down next to me and told that “This is the place for you. You will do great.” Of course, being a punk kid, I dismissed her at the time, but looking back, that reassurance got me through some tough times. Jennifer had faith in me and made sure that I know it.

Jennifer was good at spreading her faith. She helped me as I was growing up and still helps me today.

To honor Jennifer, I want to read you a short passage from a play about Abraham Lincoln’s life that Jennifer saw several times and really liked. I think that if Jennifer were her, she would read this same passage.
Abraham Lincoln lost his sister when she was in her twenties and Lincoln was in his teens and this passage comes immediately he learns of her passing and is talking to a pastor:
Abe: She was all I had left in this world, preacher.
Preacher: You’ve got a fine family.
Abe: I mean to talk to. She was the only one I could, you know, talk to. Say things to I couldn’t say to anybody else. She was a mother, sister, a wife, a friend. And now she is gone.
Preacher: Tragedy and Sorrow can bring a man down, but, God Willing, it can also make him strong. And Understanding. You’ve walked that lonesome valley of sorrow before and you’ll have to walk it again. Nobody else can walk it for you. But the sun will shine again. And, if you let it, it will shine on you.

If you imagine Jennifer as the preacher, her faith really shines through. And also remember that no matter what happens, Jennifer Lisman Bunich has always had in you.

I want to end with a request and a hope.
Victor Hugo once wrote that “To love another person is to see the face of God.” Jennifer loved all of you and if you help and love Boris, my family and each other, then you will see Jennifer again. Above all, though, Jennifer’s love and faith lives on in her daughter.
I hope that during the months ahead, I hope you will remember my sister’s love and her faith. Jennifer had Faith in you.

By Jennifer Plym
Best Friend & CSP Business Partner

My name is Jennifer Plym, or “Jen P” as everyone has recently gotten to know me.

Jen and I met 10 years ago while working at an ad agency in Charlotte. Everyone came to know and love her as “Lisman”, such an incredibly beautiful person who will be missed greatly. When I first heard of Jen’s passing, I thought this couldn’t be. This wasn’t in the Plan. You know, she had a plan for everything and I certainly had not been in the loop on this one!

Jennifer had a mesmerizing affect on everyone she met. She gave 300% to every person she knew and thought of herself last. She made you feel like you were the most important person to her at that particular time. While reading all of the wonderful words written about her by the Charlotte mommy community, half of who were people who didn’t even know Jen, it occurred to me that we were all a small piece of her puzzle, her big plan. Although, she made you feel like you were the entire thing. She could be simultaneously planning a new business presentation, hosting a baby shower, hosting supper club and meet you for a play date all in the same day. And she showed no signs of stress. How a person could squeeze 40 hours out of a 24-hour period is beyond me. But Jen did this daily.

Jen is one of the very few people I know who loved her job. Something we should all strive to achieve. She was extremely talented in her work in advertising. She had this incredible messy, creative side to her beautifully combined with an organized strategic side. Two sides that I never knew could coexist in one person until I met Jen. She was a planner. She made everything so easy for everyone in her life. She was always focused on the plan, even in her final days. I have a feeling that she is feverishly working up there in heaven trying to get everyone organized.

Jen was a talented artist and she did not talk about it often. The next time you go to her house, walk upstairs and look at the beautiful bear mural she painted for Claire-bear’s playroom. Unbelievable. Again, where did she find the time?

Jen could have been a professional photographer. She documented every single detail of her life with photos from beginning to end. If I were the photographer, I would capture the typical girls group hug. Jen would photograph the restaurant sign, street sign, menu, birthday cake and then think about the group hug. Her photos told a beautiful story every time. I so looked forward to her Kodak Gallery emails. She should have owned stock in that company! She also had the amazing ability to look good in every photo, all 100 million of them!, throughout every stage of her life. I certainly can’t say the same for myself!

Jen was perfect in all aspects of her life. She was a loving wife and always thought of Boris needs first and foremost, especially his appreciation of a good home-cooked meal. This might be the only area that she was lacking – gourmet to her was a Diet Coke and pretzels at 10am! But she tried! And we loved her for that. She was a doting mother, the most incredible mother I have ever known. She didn’t know it, but she was the “Smartiest” Mom of all – a title she invented for Charlotte Smarty Pants. She was a perfect daughter – for every milestone in her parent’s lives, she would come up with a beautiful DVD to chronicle the event, no matter how busy Jen’s personal life was. And she was the best friend you could ever have. I’m so sad that I never officially told her that. She was and forever will be my true inspiration in life. She lived life to the fullest every single day.

Over the past 6 months, Jen gave me one lasting gift, Charlotte Smarty Pants. Jen pushed me to create it and launch it during a time when I just didn’t feel like doing it. It’s almost as if she knew we had to get this thing done. It too was in her big plan. There is so much of Jen in Charlotte Smarty Pants. Pressure is on here! We always jokingly competed for who could get the most comments on her post. When we first launched, we were so excited to get one or two comments. Well for her last entry, she wins, hands down. Today, she is close to 100 and still going up. Kind of ironic because her goal for the initial weekly newsletter registration was to capture just 100 email addresses.

Jennifer Lisman Bunich – the Charlotte Smarty Mom of the Year!


Co-worker

I know if this service was for me, Jennifer would have written a play by play on who would speak, how much time they had and provided suggested topics – to make sure everything was covered. She would also have personally contributed by writing a heart-felt, one of a kind poem that would be accompanied by a creatively displayed collage. They say friends balance each other out – so if that is what JB would do then I am on the opposite end. Scrambling to put together just the right words that represent my dearest, treasured friend – JB. In my own organized way I decided to put together a list of the things I will miss most about her…

I will miss her binders. As most of you know, Jennifer was very organized, in fact she was the most organized person at Wray Ward. And this was proven through the numerous binders that surrounded her in her cube. There was barely room for her to sit. And we teased her often about them.

I will miss her thoughtfulness, always being the first to offer up a baby shower or going away gig. She always thought of others first.

I will miss her sending me pictures of Claire after every major event. These major events included parties, holidays, beach trips, Claire’s new blue dress, her new pink dress, her Christmas dress, you get it. Every moment was an event for Jen to capture.

I will miss rushing into work at 8:35 (or 8:40) and seeing Jen in her cube, already putting in a ½ hours work. Typical to our personalities, she was consistently early and I have been known to be a little bit late on occasion.

I will miss her coming up to my cube and saying “Got any gossip” or on the good days saying “I’ve got gossip.”

I will miss going to her cube every time our boss Greg’s door was closed worrying that I was going to get into trouble for something. She would always tell me how paranoid I am and that I could do no wrong.

I will miss her asking me about baby milestones and not having the answer. Jennifer was always thirsty for information and wanted to be prepared. I have a daughter who is 3 1/2 and Jen would ask me, “When did Zoe started eating solids, sippy cups…” And my answer was always, “I don’t remember”, but I know the pediatrician told me it was time. I am sure Claire’s baby book details these events perfectly, where as my daughters has many blank pages still to be filled out.

I will miss her creativeness. She loved markers, paint pens and posterboard. I have so many hand made gifts from her that I will cherish forever. A Christmas ornament, burp clothe, and many others. She always found time to add that special touch to everything she did.

Most of all, I will miss the type of friend that made going to work so great. The type of friend that I only wish I could be.

I’ll miss you Jen!

By Jennifer Appleby
President of Wray Ward

Marilyn and Don, you know better than anyone that you raised a wonderful daughter. I can further affirm that you raised a strong, smart, confident, creative woman. As a mother of two girls, allow me to say that no one could ever make a parent more proud than your Jennifer.

Her work ethic was exceptional, her attention to detail was extraordinary and her commitment to doing whatever it took, inspirational. But her personal touch, genuine caring and light-hearted spirit were what made her so special.

Those of us at Wray Ward are so lucky and blessed to have worked side by side with our darling Jen B. for the past 5 years. We knew her to be unbelievably dedicated, often sending out emails at 11 p.m. long after she had put Claire to bed. Then, with absolute consistency, she would arrive each day at the office on time often balancing 4 to 5 shoulder bags with everything she needed to tackle that’s day’s to do list. She was an organizational marvel and master of the excel spreadsheet. She was always planning. She was the first to arrive at every meeting. With the ability to handle any client’s need or any coworker’s questions with complete calm and confidence, Jennifer was always on top of every project and way ahead of everyone else in her thoughtful preparation.

Have I mentioned that she was universally loved and admired? In our business, temperament has a way of showing itself when the work undergoes one change after another. Somehow, and I truly do not exaggerate, Jennifer simply never showed impatience or moodiness. I don’t know what she may have vented to Boris after she got home, but we never saw it at the agency. For this reason, she was truly a leader and an example to others of unfailing professionalism. Her clients knew it and her coworkers knew it, which is why they have made some of the following comments I’d like to share with you now.

By prelude, let me say that each year our agency chooses someone to receive the Outstanding Employee of the Year award. From now on, it will be known as the Jennifer Bunich Award. Here are a few comments from some of her many coworkers who nominated Jennifer in 2007:

“Jennifer is dedicated to Wray Ward and embodies the spirit of this agency through her hard work, attention to detail, service and passion. She serves as a strong role model for others coming up the ranks and everyone seems to enjoy working with her no matter what department they are in.”

And from another: “J.B. digs, brainstorms and works hard until she comes up with a great solution for her client. She’s highly driven and stands proudly by her work. One of my favorite things to observe is how passionate she is and how proud she is of the work she delivers – a true motivation to those of us who surround her.”

And still another: “She’s a total embodiment of our core values. These values come naturally to her. She doesn’t do her job this way because she’s ‘supposed to’ do it that way, she does her job this way because she truly believes this is the best way to work. She looks for creative solutions wherever and whenever possible. She always shows enthusiasm for her teammates and the work they bring to the table. She is thorough, honest, dedicated and most of all a true collaborator.”

I could go on and on with many other nominating comments, but instead I want to turn to what some of our agency’s clients have expressed about Jennifer. This week, in the midst of our devastation, I have had the honor and immense consolation of taking call after call from those whose accounts Jennifer served and who, understandably, regarded her as a part of their own organizations and, more, as their good friend. The tears have poured on both ends of the phone and I know that many who called are here with us today. Some managed to put their thoughts in writing, and here is just one example. Tellingly, it is from our newest client who had only recently begun working with Jennifer. It shows the immediate effect she had on others:

“Although our time with Jennifer was brief, she had already become a member of the Tucci family. We are deeply saddened by this news and send her family our most heartfelt sympathies. A piece of our own family is missing.” He then adds, “From our entire family, we miss Jennifer’s kind, gentle and knowing presence.”

All of us here share this feeling, so beautifully put. A piece of our family is missing. We loved her. We adored her. We take comfort only in pulling together in the very way Jennifer taught us to do.

By Mary Beth Lupinski
Supper Club Friend

For the past five years, I have had the most sincere pleasure of knowing Jen. We were introduced by a mutual friend, Himanshu Desai. Jen and Boris immediately became part of our supper club we call “the neighbors.” We meet once a month for dinner, an outing, or family activity and as you would imagine jen was almost always involved in the planning, putting together, and documenting of our get-togethers. She touched and enriched each of our lives.

I asked Mrs. Lisman if I could honor jen and her friendship with a prayer that I felt was so appropriate.

When I was a teenager, my mother shared with me something called “The Hopi Indian Prayer.” I have read it many times since then, particularly when I’ve lost a friend, family member, or loved one. It reminds me that although a person’s physical being may be gone, their spirit lives on within us….around us….all the time. It is up to us to recognize it, believe it, and embrace it.

The Hopi Indian Prayer

Do not stand at my grave and weep
I am not there, I do not sleep.

I am a thousand winds that blow;
I am the diamond glints on snow;
I am sunlight on the ripened grain;
I am the gentle autumn’s rain.

When you awaken in the morning hush, I am the swift uplifting rush of quiet birds in circled flight,
I am the soft stars that shine at night.

Do not stand at my grave and cry
I am not there, I did not die.

My hope is that you will remember these words…

So that when you see something special or unique, even during the most mundane of routine circumstances, you might consider maybe that Jen had a part in making it happen.

So that when you experience one of life’s most simple pleasures, you might think that jen’s spirit is helping you appreciate, celebrate and revel in it.

My hope is that each of us recognizes and embraces just one small part of jen’s glorious being. In doing so, if we all take just one part…we can keep the whole of jen’s spirit and her memory alive…for boris….for Claire…and for the entire Lisman family.

There’s an old saying and I’m not sure how the whole thing goes, but I know it starts something like…”it takes a village.” Well, my dear friend boris, as I stand here, I look out and see your village. I challenge each of us to be part of that village Boris and Claire need…today, tomorrow, and during the days to come.

Thank you and God Bless

So many CSP readers have asked if they can contribute to Jennifer’s 2 1/2-year-old daughter, Claire. Any contributions can be made to the Claire Bunich College Fund c/o Charlotte Smarty Pants, PO Box 473862, Charlotte, NC 28247

91 Responses

  1. Anonymous says:

    my thoughts and prayers are with each of you and your families. Jen will be sorely missed, but we have faith that Jen P will never let us down. Keep the faith and know that Jen is watching down on you.

  2. Anonymous says:

    I heard through a mutual friend and my mouth was on the floor. I couldn’t believe it. Several of us who read the site felt like we got to know her a little through the site and I know, personally, I could read her integrity, drive, brilliance and passion for her daughter. I have a 22 month of my own and it grieves me to know end to think of me not being able to guide her as she grows up. We certainly will keep you (Jen P) and Jen B’s family in our prayers. UNBELIEVABLE!

  3. Shelly B. says:

    My heart aches tonight as I heard the news earlier today. I had the honor of seeing Jen’s smiling face almost 5 days a week as we passed at daycare–mornings and nights. My daughter, Anna, is one of little Claire’s partners in crime(she has all the beautiful qualities of her mommy). My heart sank tonight as Anna told me at dinner that Claire “went home from school today.” Jen was truly a devoted mommy who touched everyone she met. Jen P, your post made me laugh as I thought about how Jen documented our holiday cookie party on DVD and gave each of us there a copy of the day’s event. Jen’s thoughtfulness and creativity were without bounds. Jen, your life was too short but I know you made the most of every day. We will follow in your footsteps and help keep your legacy alive.

  4. Jen P. Thank you for your beautiful post. I’ve been praying all day that the voicemail messages I received this morning were wrong. I cannot wrap my head or my heart around this loss. I felt such a connection to Jennifer in such a short time – I was mesmerized by her enthusiam and dedication. I had her pegged as one of my panelists for next year’s conference – one of those moms who just gets the balance right. We will help you keep this site going for her legacy, just tell us what you need from us. You and Boris and Jennifer’s entire family are in our prayers. Love,April Whitlock

  5. tori says:

    Jen P, you did a wonderful job in describing Jen. We met when we were 6 and I’ve walked through the day in a fog not being able to fathom that my oldest friend is gone. My heart breaks for Claire and Boris. It’s just too unbelievable. The last time I was in Charlotte was for her wedding and it’s difficult to comprehend that when I go back it will be for her funeral.

  6. Anonymous says:

    How do we deal with the sudden loss of someone so young and full of life? There is a part of Jen in all of us. She was so easy to relate to and seemed to understand life as a Charlotte mom. She seemed to really appreciate family and good friends and know what is important but also know how to have a good time. Jen left her mark on the world via CSP. She has truly inspired us to live life to the fullest and to appreciate every moment. My prayers are with all of you as we mourn the loss of Jen B.

  7. Traci Z. says:

    Oh, I am absolutely shocked. This is unbelievable. My thoughts and prayers are with all of Jen B.’s family and friends. Jen P., I am so sorry. Please let us know how we can help. I’ll call you to see what I can do. Your post was beautiful.

  8. NancyDJ says:

    I’m so sorry for this great loss to all of you who know her and all of us who were getting to know her here. Wishes for peace, comfort, and hope to all of her friends and family.

  9. Anonymous says:

    Wow! What a huge shock. I am a daily reader, and my condolences go out to Jen’s family and friends. I am at a loss for words…

  10. tracy says:

    Jen, you did a beautiful job remember Jen B. She was such an amazing friend to so many people and touched so many lives! She will truly be missed. My thoughts and prayers are with Boris and Claire and their families. Charlotte Smarty Pants truly will be Jen’s legacy – she loved it so much and it too, has made such an impact on a lot of people. So glad you plan to keep it going! Love,Tracy Spiva

  11. Amanda says:

    Thank you Jen for your wonderful tribute to your best friend. Although I never met her, I feel like I know her in some small way. I will pray for her husband, daughter and family that she left behind. A close friend of mine told me the Jen lived life to the fullest, loving every day. I think that is a lesson to each of us. Life is fragile and we need to lead by her example and live life with love, passion, and zest. Thank you for continuing Charlotte Smarty Pants and honoring your best friend. What a gift you have both given to all of us.

  12. Anonymous says:

    i’m so sorry. I am a daily reader and cannot imagine your loss. our thoughts and prayers are with you and her family.

  13. It was so shocking to hear the sad news about Jen B. While, I didn’t know her very well, I talked to her her almost every day while we were picking up our daughters at daycare. I know that there are a lot of us at CLCC that would like to help Claire, Boris and you in any way that we can. Whether it be preparing meals, having Claire over to play or helping you with the website, please know that there are a lot of people that want to help. My thoughts are with Jen’s family and friends.Patty Drummond

  14. Anonymous says:

    Jen P,What you have written about Jen is absolutely beautiful. She truly did touch the hearts of so many people and will be genuinely missed by all. Our thoughts and prayers go out to all of her family and friends. We loved her, and will continue to love her forever.Leslie and Jason Wagoner

  15. Today is so very hard. Thank you Jen P. for your heartfelt words about Jen B. She’s the friend that made all of us feel better. She was the first one with an encouraging word and a smile. She genuinely cared about us, our lives and our families. She celebrated our milestones and she shared that smile with us at engagements, weddings and births. Claire, your mom was the greatest. Her love for you was absolute and she wanted to get it right. How many of us did she ask for potty training tips? When she did get it right, she shared. Boris, her love and support for you were as equally absolute. She was a model to many of us and made us want to be a do better. My heart is breaking as I think of her as a Savvy Angel motivating heaven to become more organized. Godspeed my friend, yours is a life well loved and lived!

  16. Krobisch says:

    My thoughts are with all of you who knew Jen personally. I feel that I did from reading her posts, but know that it could not compare to the brillance she seemed to possess in person! Will someone please give her little girl a hug from me?

  17. Ashley H. says:

    JenThis is an unbelievable painful event. You have been in my many thoughts today & you memorialized Jen B “Lisman” so beautifully here. I am happy to hear you will continue this site, it’s important to a lot of people (including me) and it’s a wonderful way to honor Jen B’s driven spirit. I miss her so much and I am so sorry. Boris & Claire, our thoughts are with you in this tragic loss. No question how much she loved you both. She was superwoman and accomplished so much in her young 36 years of life (she’s my hero)! I smiled at Courtnay’s post about Jen likely trying to “organize” heaven more efficiently, so true. I’m thankful to have known her and called her friend. Thanks for all the memories and all you did for me, Jen B! Ashley

  18. Anonymous says:

    I originally heard about CMP through a co-worker of mine Kruti Desai. Kruti and her husband were the last “Smarty Dad” entry Jenn B. did this past Saturday, Feb. 2. I too feel I have gotton to know Jenn over the weeks reading the blog entries and also through my friend Kruti. There are no words for such a tragedy like this. I lost my mom recently at age 29 two months before I had my little girl. You can’t put into words the loss of a mother at 29 let along at the fragile age of 2.5. I (and I am sure there are others) in the Charlotte mommy community would love to be able to help. Can we start a fund for Claire’s future? I am sure there are plenty of moms out there that would like this opportunity to make a donation.

  19. Anonymous says:

    Jennifer was truly one of a kind! She lived every day to the fullest and made sure everyone around her felt special on their birthdays and she made every holiday extra special. I remmeber when you used to make wonderful handmade decorations and decorate our office for the hoildays. I worked with her for about 4 years and always considered it an honor to know her. She always thought of others before herself. She will be missed very deeply by all of us that knew her.

  20. Anonymous says:

    I did not personally know her, I have just enjoyed reading the posts from both of you. You touch on so many important things we can all relate to. Her family and friends are in our thoughts and prayers. This makes me want to call my friends and make sure they know how much I love and appreciate them all.

  21. Anonymous says:

    This news was heartbreaking, and I cried my eyes out with empathy though I never met Jen in person – only through her inspired posts on this amazing site. She will be missed by many.

  22. I cannot comprehend the enormity of this loss. I too am shocked and cannot believe that Jen is gone. She has touched so many people in so many ways, she will be incredibly missed. I too got to know her first through work…we then lived together and I have so many memories of our good times together. There were the Hilton Head trips; Jimmy Buffett concerts, Halloween costumes; Tiki Hut on the deck; getting to know each others families; The annual Lisman/Bunich lake party and just the everyday ordinary events that were always fun and special with Jen. She was the most thoughtful and giving person I knew. She never ceased to amaze me with her creativty, and the way she pulled all of our friends together. I know there has to be so many people shocked and saddened by this event. She will be missed but never forgotten. The last time we were together was Christmas Eve for lunch with another one of my friends. We had a great time catching up with each other and being together as if no time had passed between us and we were still the silly 3 girls who loved to gab, giggle and gossip. After going back home to Greensboro I was pleasantly surprised to see that Jen had mentioned our luncheon in one of her blogs (I read her blog everyday even though I don’t have children just so I could see new pictures of her and Claire). It put a smile on my face – just as Jen always could. I will hold that day so dearly since it was one that was carefree and fun and one in which I knew we would be friends forever no matter the miles between us. I will miss Jen so much and wish I had the chance to say goodbye and tell her I love her just one more time. She will be in my heart forever. All my love and thoughts and prayers go to Boris and Claire and her family.

  23. My heart dropped when I heard this unbelievable news yesterday. It was only a month ago that Jen helped me throw a shower for a good mutual friend of ours. I kept telling everyone how it was the easiest, most organized party I have ever held at my house. And that was all thanks to Jen B. Her spirit and enthusiasm showed in everything she did. Her love for Claire and Boris were unmistakable. My thoughts and prayers are with her family and friends at this most difficult time. Krissy Jones

  24. Dana says:

    My thoughts and prayers are with the friends and family of Jen B. I keep thinking of Jen and the weekend at Charleston for Keely’s B-party. I see her taking snapshots as we walk to the beach and then sitting peacefully reading on the beach. She spoke so fondly of Claire and Boris. It was obvious they were the apple of her eye! I hope we will all feel her presence as a gentle breeze and remember the beautiful person who was loved by so many. What a wonderful way for Claire to see how her mother was loved, respected and looked up to, by not only family and friends, but the Charlotte community.

  25. Anonymous says:

    Jen P., Jen Lisman was a sorority sister to me. I was very saddened by this terrible news. My thoughts and prayers are with Jen’s family and friends. She was a beautiful person and this is a tremendous loss. Julie Schanely Bonargo

  26. McSwain says:

    The news of Jen B’s passing is just so devastating. I worked with her at Wray Ward and truly enjoyed every time we talked. She sat me down several times when I was expecting to fill me in on “the things no one tells you about giving birth.” She had such an enthusiasm for everything she touched. My thoughts and prayers are with her family, especially Boris and Little Claire. I pray that peace will find them in the midst of this heartbreaking time.

  27. Shirley says:

    I still can’t believe this terrible news is true. Jennifer was one of the sweetest people I’ve ever had the pleasure of knowing. She always had a smile on her face, and she was willing to help with anything. My heart goes out to Boris, Claire and Jen’s family. We will keep you in our thoughts and prayers.

  28. Anonymous says:

    My thoughts and prayers are with Jen B’s family. I never met her, but I read this blog every day and was shocked to read the news of her passing today.

  29. Jenny D. says:

    I don’t know what else to say, you all have mentioned every amazing thing that made Jennifer, Jennifer. I just wish I could tell her how she touched my life and what an incredible friend she was. I will miss her everyday.

  30. Abi says:

    Jen P, What al ovely tribute you wrote about “Lisman,” which is what we called her at Ship. I, too, am a sprority sister of Jen’s and can so clearly see her smiling face and hear her cheerful voice. She will be missed by many. My thoughts and prayers are with you, Boris, and Claire, her family, and everyone who knew her.Abi Sachs Halkett

  31. Anonymous says:

    I first met Jen when our babies were at the YWCA together. Wes and Claire Bear. We were first time moms and learning the ropes together. It was awesome to have someone to exchange milestone updates and new mommy anxieties with on a daily basis. Claire always had the cutest onesies on with special sayings that Jen made for her. I could never really figure out how she made them or found the time. As I got to know Jen better, I realized she found the time for everything and everyone in her life, always making everyone feel special. We had playdates often and Jen always documented every moment. The pictures, dvd’s, cards and calendars Jen made for me are so special. I will never forget Jen’s kindness, creativity or loving soul. I know she will be with us in spirit watching over her family. We love you Jen. Boris, Claire and Jen’s family, you are in our thoughts and prayers.

  32. Anonymous says:

    Claire and Boris, While I don’t know Jen, I have a feeling she would have been someone that I would have really enjoyed. I am friends with Jen P and am always amazed by what she is doing, clearly Jen P gets a great We will continue to keep all of you in our thoughts and prayers. May God continue to bless each of you.Catherine Austin

  33. Bill says:

    Wow, I am just floored. I was fortunate enough to employ Jen at our advertising agency for several years (I think it was her first “real” job, and not only was she pleasant and personable, but she was smart and mature beyond her years and advanced very quickly. I know we all had complete trust in her decision-making, her ability to deal with clients and agency personnel, but most of all her obvious honesty, integrity and work ethic, and were blessed to have her for the time we did.Although I never met her husband or daughter, I know there are hundreds like me who share in their grief and loss and ask God’s blessings upon them.And, thanks Jen P for a loving and moving tribute from the heart– you’ve helped a lot of us to accept this blow a little better.

  34. Katie says:

    I just cannot stop reading these posts and looking at Jen’s pictures. It still hasn’t fully registered. Jen was the first person I met in Charlotte when I moved there in 1994, and we became close friends after working together. I feel so fortunate to have had her as a close friend. She was such a genuine, honest and caring friend to the bone. And as a mother and wife she took all that to another level. I just have to believe God has really big plans for her in Heaven, and that she really was an angel among us. She is so sorely missed. My thoughts and prayers are with Boris, Claire, the Lismans, the Bunichs, and everyone who loves her.

  35. Amy says:

    A friend just told me about this site. I wish I had known about it before. I am so sorry for your loss. I will keep the family in my prayers. This really puts my own minor problems in perspective. What an awesome legacy Jen B has left behind. That she was able to accomplish so much is amazing. When we have completed our task God takes us home. Seems as if she completed hers with an enthusiasm that so many lack. What an inspiration she has been in just the few blogs I have read. Peace be with her family and friends.

  36. Anonymous says:

    Jen P., so many hearts are saddened for the loss Boris, Claire, the Lisman’s and Bunich’s, yourself and all who knew Jen B. (or “Lisman” to her friends from Shippensburg U) are suffering. Jen leaves behind so many fond memories and inspiring messages to everyone. We are all blessed to have been a part of her life.Lisman had a gift, and our lives are richer for having known her. I personally have grown from knowing her generous, loving spirit and true, genuine good nature. She touched everyone she met and her family and friends can be so proud of all Lisman has accomplished. Please take care and know that people all over are grieving with you.- Jen Kuc Shearon

  37. Harry says:

    Jen, you have captured in words what so many of us have in our hearts. I was fortunate to work with her at her first “real job” as Bill calls it. Mature beyond her years and honest to a fault is the way I’d describe Jen Lisman. Although I never met her husband or daughter, my heart and prayers go out to them in this time of grief.

  38. Anonymous says:

    Super Jen! You will be missed by many. We love you.

  39. Anonymous says:

    My heart just sank when I read this. My thoughts and prayers go out to everyone who knew Jen, but most of all to her husband and daughter. I did not know her personally, only through the website, but she seemed to be a wonderful person and a great mother.

  40. Melissa says:

    I met Jen in 1995 when I started working at Cato. We became instant friends. I mean who couldn’t love Jennifer. SHe was the best friend anyone could ever ask for. She was always thinking of everyone but herself. SHe always had a wonderful attitude. When my now husband met Jen, he called her Mom from day one. Jen wasn’t even married or had Claire yet but he called her that because she always took care of everyone. I am so devastated and shocked that I will no longer get to see Jennifer. She was one of those few people in the world that truly made the world a better place. She was beautiful on the inside and out. I feel like I did not get to spend enough time with her. Christmas Eve was the last time I saw her. I did speak with her on Sat. and I told her that I loved her and I wanted to come cheer her up. I did not get to tell her however that I thought she was such a wonderful, one of a kind friend and that I am a better person because she touched my life. Boris, I don’t even know what to say. I hope you will somehow get through this most difficult time. If you need anything, Bill and I are here for you and Claire and the family!Missy, Bill, and Billy Wagenseller

  41. Anonymous says:

    Jen P.- I would have thought words could not do justice to captivate the person Jen was, but you did it so well. Thank you. Having been a sorority sister and friend of Jen’s for 15 years this was an absolute heartbreak. As I read these posts, I am reminded of Jen’s ability to positively impact the lives of all who knew her. It is without question that she is leaving a legacy behind, and not just in a website, but in each of us…because to know Jen was to admire at least one of her AWESOME characteristics. Whether it be her mommy skills, or her ability to document life through photography and scrapbooking, or her general kindness and passion toward others, we all take away a piece of Jen just by knowing her. Her most beautiful legacy of all is little Claire, who with the help of all of those who loved Jen, will grow up to know that her mom was truly bigger than life. May each of you be comforted by the memories you have of Jen. – Juliet Rosenberry Gay

  42. Anonymous says:

    I climbed the Grand Canyon and screamed on Space Mountain in Disney with Jen. I worked with Jen at the agency & the bank. I’m just at a loss for words. I’ll have to go home and look at the Grand Canyon scrapbook we made together. I’m deeply saddened. My thoughts and prayers go out to the family.~Becky Witmer

  43. Kaylee says:

    I feel so lucky and blessed to have known Jen. She was such a thoughtful and caring friend and someone who always put the needs of others in front of her own. Jen loved life and always had a huge smile on her face. My heart and prayers go out to Boris & Claire and her family and friends. The world won’t be the same without Jen in it.

  44. Anonymous says:

    I didn’t know her but she’s the exact same age as me and boy does this put things into perspective! Just so sad, we hope you will be able to go on with the site as it’s been such a nice and helpful site to learn about things around town. Especially knowing that she helped to create it…I can’t imagine losing my best friend at such a young age and I just feel so sad for her family and especially her daughter who apparently was so fortunate to have such a great mom!

  45. Anonymous says:

    I am so sorry. Our thoughts and prayers are with Boris, Claire and the rest of Jen’s family and friends.I first met “Lisman” when my husband and I moved to Charlotte. Jen was an amazing woman, and it has been so nice to recently read about her experiences as a mom. Jen P., you wrote such a beautiful piece. Take care of you too.Meggin & Rocky Welsing

  46. Anonymous says:

    Our thoughts and prayers go out to Jen’s family and friends. To all of you who knew her so well she will always be an angel looking over you. Im so very sorry to hear about this devestating news,,I will always be a big fan of Charlotte Smarty Pants.

  47. Anonymous says:

    I met Jen B. through our wonderful mutual friend, Keely. I got the chance to really get to know Jen through all of Keely’s wedding festivities and a fabulous weekend in Charleston. I feel so blessed to have known her even for an instant. She was so kind and sweet and so much fun. And yes, she had that camera out to document all the funny things that happened to us in Charleston! I only wish I could have gotten to know her even better! My thoughts and prayers are with her entire family. Love, Kat

  48. Anonymous says:

    What a great resource for local moms. I’m glad I heard about it and Jen’s legacy will live on through you. She sounds like an amazing woman and how lucky you are to have had such a great friend.

  49. Anonymous says:

    I can’t believe such a beautiful and vivacious woman is gone. We met Boris through a mutual friend and then had the pleasure of meeting Jen and Claire bear. One night they came to our house for Boris to translate the video we had just received of a baby boy we hoped to adopt from Kazakhstan. Jen started with her wonderful mom advice that night. She taught me how to use the Baby Bjorn carrier using 6 month old Miss Claire as the model (very brave of Jen I thought). Then for our baby shower Jen scoured Hallmark to find the perfect adoption card to add to the beautiful gift. The gift she brought was nothing we had registered for but the most useful baby item we own. She made sure the gift receipt was attached to the card just in case, but she wanted to make sure she passed on something she had found to be very useful. I am so happy the web site will go on. Jen always had a special way of trying to keep everyone involved. She always included us in parties, shows and other activities. I wish now we had taken the time to make it to more of those times with her. Boris, Jennifer and Baby Claire a picture perfect family. I am so heart broken Claire will grow up without one of the most amazing women I have ever met, her mother. My heart goes out to Boris, Claire and all of their family and friends. Le Anne Kieffer

  50. Anonymous says:

    I met Jen a couple of years ago at a Christmas party. She seemed like a really cool girl. Since I don’t have kids yet, I found out about the site when I learned of her passing. The whole thing breaks my heart. She was such a beautiful person and a wonderful mother. I just can’t wrap my head around this at all. My thoughts and prayers are with Boris, Claire, and all of her family and friends.

  51. Anonymous says:

    My wife and I would like to send our deepest sympathy to Boris, Claire and the entire family. My fondest memories of Jen was the annual Lisman/Fry Vacation to Martha’s Vineyard, Massachusetts, a small island off of Cape Cod. We took this vacation every July for over 10 years. 5 Lisman’s, 5 Fry’s, in a house with 4 bedrooms. It was always the highlight of the summer. While on the Vineyard, we would go to the beach, ride our bikes, BBQ at night, and watch the most spectacular sunsets across the Lagoon. At night, we would go into Oak Bluffs, Vineyard Haven, or Jen’s favorite, Edgartown. There we would walk along the quaint streets, down near the harbor to look at the fancy boats, and of course get a M&M ice cream at Mad Martha’s. When I look back, I realize that those where some of the best days of my life. We were just a bunch of kids on a great vacation, and Jen was a big reason for that. She brought an energy that would light up a room. She was the first to come up with a fun card game during the occasional rainfall, the first to help you construct a sand castle, and since she was so thin, never the one who ate the last Apple Fritter, I think that was Mr. Lisman. My heart is broken for the Lisman….Scott and Brad, you are great friends that should have lost a sister so soon, and Mr. and Mrs. Lis, you raised a wonderful daughter who made a great impact on this world. I will always be a better person for knowing Jen Lisman Bunich, and I will never forget her. -Brian Fry

  52. Anonymous says:

    Jen was one of the most thoughtful and considerate people I’ve ever known. Quick with a thank you note, a smile and always following up events or playdates with lots of pictures! I had given Jen the Lollipops tickets just a couple of weeks ago and was so glad to read that she had a great time with Claire and her Mom. It is comforting and amazing to read these posts and see how many lives she has touched through this website and elsewhere. She will be very deeply missed.Amy V

  53. Anonymous says:

    I had met Jen B once at a supper night at a mutual friends house. And although I only met her once, one could see/feel everything that everyone close to her mentioned. No words could state how sorry I am for the loss for her family/friends. Jen P, I know that it will be extremely hard/difficult to continue this website, but know that Jen B will still be apart of this website. She will be with you on every post/article smiling down on you.Julie Murray

  54. Anonymous says:

    i never met jen b. but feel as if i have. her passing is truly heartbreaking. maybe in some small way the purpose of her starting the site when she did was so little claire and boris could have that much more love and support when it was needed most. jen p- take care of you– and we’ll keep reading.

  55. Wendy says:

    Wow – this is such heartbreaking news. It has been a couple of years since I’ve seen Jen since we moved out of Charlotte. It has been so nice to be back in touch virtually through this site. Jen P. – you guys have done a great job and the site is reaching way beyond Charlotte. How amazing to see how many people Jen B. has touched in her relatively short life. She will be missed greatly and will definitely leave quite a legacy.

  56. coleen says:

    Jen P., that is a beautiful passage that describes the “Lisman” I remember from Ship so perfectly. It is amazing to hear such kind words for one person and agree it all to be true. To know Jen was to love Jen. . . My thoughts and prayers are with Boris, Claire & her family. We will all miss her.-Coleen Murphy Fickes

  57. Anonymous says:

    This is so profoundly sad. Our thoughts are with her family and her friends. Jon,Katy,Max and Michael

  58. Anonymous says:

    Is something being done for Claire? Maybe we could open a 529 in her name? My husband and I would like to contribute.

  59. Anonymous says:

    My heart ached when I read this post yesterday. As the mother of two young children, I was saddened to think that Jen’s daughter will grow up without her, and that her husband has lost his best friend. Jen seemed so young and vibrant in everything she wrote in this post. Charlotte has lost a truly wonderful woman this week. Our thoughts and prayers are with you.

  60. Anonymous says:

    we would like to contribute to a 529 as well.

  61. maryickert says:

    I am beyond words…. I roomed with Jen when I first moved to Charlotte back in 1995. She was my first friend here in Charlotte. When I first learned of SmartyPants and logged on, I was so happy when I saw her picture on this website and we got back in touch last month. I am stunned to learn of her passing but somehow know everyone who knew her and loved her will carry her spirt on. I send my deepest sympathies to her family, Boris and Claire, her parents, siblings and all of her freinds and neighbors. God bless her and the entire Lisman-Bunich family.

  62. Mama Judy says:

    Oh honey– I miss you so much-your smiling face and the daily updates about Claire. I don’t know who was luckier Claire for having you as a mother or me for being able to see you everyday and give or get a hug. My prayers are with Boris, Claire and

  63. Anonymous says:

    Though an avid reader of Smarty Pants, I haven’t been on for a few days and could not believe the headline. I feel so sad to hear this. I don’t know you girls, but you’ve been a source of great support and resource for me as a new mom–I rely on CSP! Being in the same business as Jen too, I felt connected to you all–like go girl go! And she was my age–it just seems so unbelievable that this has happened. I will keep the family in my prayers and hope to see in the weeks to come how we can help Claire and Boris.

  64. Desirae says:

    Wow what a huge shock!I read yalls blog every few daysThis is truely sad ;[We are praying for you and her family!

  65. tchjill says:

    WOW What a shock. Is there a charity we can give to in her name? Can you tell us her illness so we can give to that?

  66. Jen P., What a beautiful tribute you wrote to Jen. I met Jen in Charlotte many years ago – my parents are dear friends of the Lismans (I now live in Florida) – I posted some memory photos on my blog – http://savannahdoyle.blogspot.com Hugs to Don and Marilyn and everyone who knew and loved Jen.

  67. Anonymous says:

    how could this happen so suddenly to someone so young and bright? it is pretty scarey to think that this can happen to any of us at any moment. perhaps when the healing process has begun, Jen P can shed some light to their loyal readers on this sensitive situation. prayers to the family and that cute little claire.. my heart breaks for her the most

  68. sally says:

    I’m so, so sorry to hear about the loss of Jen B. While I didn’t know her personally, I really loved the insight that she shared with all of her readers. From reading the comments it is obvious she was an amazing wife and mother. I’m so very sorry for your loss.

  69. Lisa K. says:

    I was lucky enough to see Jennifer every day for 4 years at work. We both started at Wray Ward in March of 2003. I was junior to her, but my goal was to always be a supervisor like Jen. She was so talented, organized, creative and on top of things. I would sit next to her every Monday in our account service meeting and envy her week at a glance calendar with everything she needed to accomplish. I would always say – how the heck do you do that? Mostly for effect, but she would try to show me how and point out tools in Outlook for me to use. I didn’t ever get that organized, but who besides Bunich could do it? I am so sad she is gone. I am not a mother yet, but I looked forward to having her in my corner. She is who I was going to take to Babies R Us to register. She is the only person I know who could probably tell me the ins and outs of all baby products. I will have to use Charlotte Smarty Pants as my resource, knowing that her legacy lives on here. Thanks Jen for all you taught me.

  70. Anonymous says:

    I am so sorry to hear about Jen. While I didn’t know her personally, her posts (and yours) made me smile — and made me better equipped to be a mom in Charlotte. I wish you, her family, and all of her friends comfort during this difficult time.’The Lord is close to the brokenhearted; he rescues those who are crushed in spirit.’ Psalm 34:18

  71. Tillie says:

    Our thoughts and prayers are with you and her family. I only knew her for a moment and she was such a wonderful person. With all of her loving friends Claire will definitely grow up knowing how wonderful she was and that her mom was loved by all.

  72. Words cannot express how I am feeling. I was a sorority sister of Jen’s and was privileged to spend 3 ½ close years with her. She was an inspiration to all of us. I fondly remember her making my roommates and I a video on vhs tape way back when. Just think what she could create for us now. She was an amazing person and is the reason why I passed arts & crafts in college. In the end, I never really needed that class since my career lead me to computers and clipart, but I did need her friendship. My thoughts and prayers go out to her parent, her husband, her sisters at Tau Lambda who loved her so, but especially to her beautiful daughter Claire.

  73. Anonymous says:

    I will miss her so much. This is unbelievable and so surreal. I can’t believe it happened.Jen B., I know you are looking down on us from Heaven and we will think of you daily. My thoughts and prayers are with your family.

  74. Dearest CSP Family,Our heartfelt sympathies for the loss of one of your own. Even though our paths have only crossed for such a short amount of time, you all have brought us into your world as only a family can do! We only wish we had the chance to have gotten to know Jen sooner! Reading through the posts today, it’s obvious that Jen was/IS loved and will never be forgotten. Jen P, we are so glad to hear that you plan on continuing CSP as a tribute to Jen. Please let us know how we can help and if there is anything at all we can do! The entire CSP family is in our thoughts and prayers.With Love,belly elan

  75. Anonymous says:

    I do admit, we try chains occasionally when a new one opens, but always return to old favorites like Red Rocks and Hotel Charlotte. The staffs at independents are friendly and warm and seem to care.

  76. Anonymous says:

    I was so deeply saddened to hear of the death of Jen B.! What a shock and great loss to our Charlotte community!I have so enjoyed this website and hope it will continue as a legacy to her.Please know my heart, thoughts, and prayers go out to all the family and friends of Jen B.!

  77. Anonymous says:

    She was beautiful, inside and out!

  78. Anonymous says:

    I was on vacation, and haven’t been online in a while. I was utterly shocked to hear the incredibly sad news. I didn’t know Jen personally, but I’ve been emailing with her about some advertising stuff on the site & like many readers, really feel I got to see who she was through the many great posts. I am just shocked & heartbroken for her family. Please let us know if a fund is set up for Claire.

  79. natalie says:

    It has been two very long weeks now, and a day has not passed by that I do not stop to feel my aching heart. I was touched by such a beautiful person, and I will be forever changed. Heaven simply needed an angel to come home. And her mother said it best as she spoke of how Jen packed in the most out of life in such a short amount of time. Now we can all be a little bit of Jen to pass her spirit on. We can all be a better daughter, wife, mother, and friend. Boris and Claire, please know that we are here for you. And we will wake up every day and ask, “How can I spread a little bit of Jen, today?” Her loving spirit will go on through all of us. My heart does hurt, but it is a little bit bigger now to spread the love of JEN BUNICH! natalie

  80. jonesnpj says:

    I worked with Jen at LKM many years ago. We used to travel to Mannington together for status. I was incredibly shocked and saddened to hear the news about her passing. I remember her as being such a vibrant, energetic and happy person. My deepest sympathy to all that knew and loved her. You are all in my thoughts and prayers.

  81. Still weeks after this tragedy, I think of Jenn and her family daily. I was blessed to be able to attend Jenn’s beautiful service. It left me with a new look at life and gave me inspiration that I can’t put into words. I know that she is with all of us, making us all better people. My prayers are with you. –

  82. Anonymous says:

    I have started this email over and over again trying to find just the right words but they just don’t seem to come, however I will try my best…my heart is so deeply saddened! I just read the article in today’s Charlotte Observer and my thoughts and prayers have been with Jen and all her loving family and friends ever since. I worked with Jen at Cato, and even though it has been many years I do remember that Jen was a wonderfully gifted person and above all I do remember her being such a kind and caring person to everyone! It truly sounds like Jen had so much joy in her life and she most definitely brought joy to all those around her! God Bless you all!

  83. Anonymous says:

    I ready the Charlotte Observer on Sunday and was very touched by your story about your best friend. Although I don’t know either one of you, the love and friendship that you two shared was conveyed in the article. My heart goes out to all that are affected by Jen B’s passing. She sounded like an incredible person.

  84. JW says:

    I have never posted a comment on a blog before, but after reading Jen’s story in Sunday’s newspaper, I felt I had to let all the women who read this blog know about an organization called National Lung Cancer Partnership based in Madison, Wisonsin. NLCP’s mission is to raise awareness of the deadly impact of the lung cancer, particularly upon women. I know about NLCP because I did PR for the organization before I moved from Madison to Charlotte a year and a half ago. I had a personal connection to NLCP because my mother died of lung cancer way too early in her life. I urge everyone who reads this to go to http://www.NationalLungCancerPartnership.com and learn about lung cancer in women and how you can help. Thank you. My deepest sympathy to Jen’s family and friends.

  85. Anonymous says:

    I was very sad to read about Jen in Sunday’s paper. My husband, a non-smoker, is battling lung cancer and I know first-hand what a nightmare it is. Please accept my deepest sympathy for your loss. Your family will be in my prayers. God Bless You All!cw

  86. Eller B says:

    The news of Jen B’s passing has spread so quickly in the Charlotte community, it is obvious she touched so many lives. Unfortunately, it was only because of this tragedy that I became aware of your website. As a new mom, I very much appreciate the information you post and look forward to sharing stories and staying in touch with other Charlotte moms in the future. As an American Cancer Society staff member in the Charlotte community, I understand how tragic and devastating cancer can be on patients and families. Please reach out to us if you seek information, support, or wish to talk to others who may have gone through a similar situation. 1.800.ACS.2345 or http://www.Cancer.org. My thoughts and prayers are with Jen B’s family and friends.

  87. bb says:

    Tonight will be our first offical “supper club” without Jen B being there. I will miss seeing her smile and light up as she tells stories about Claire and Boris…her favorite topics! I will miss her hearing her laugh at whatever nonsense we are talking about….. It won’t be the same without you Jen! She had an infectious personality that made you feel good being with her. I still can’t believe she is no longer here. Although it has been 6 weeks since her passing, not a day goes by that I don’t think about her and miss her!

  88. Anonymous says:

    Aunt Jeanne says…bb:We look at these often..part of grieving, I guess. It was so good to read your new comment and to think about Jen “living” among you as you met.I knew that your comment was here because Marilyn told me. Your words were read and felt and loved!Aunt Jeanne

  89. Anonymous says:

    I am so sorry to just have heard about Lisman. Unfortunately, I was not on the Tau Lambda directory. I want to express my deepest sympathy to you, her family, her husband and her dear daughter. I was a sorority sister of Lisman and have only fond and funny memories of her. Your words of her are true and so beautifully written. My prayers are with you all. Mic Myers

  90. Anonymous says:

    i just recently found out about jen… very sad. i met jen at ship while pledging a different sorority; she was my big sister’s roomate. jen had a huge impact on me and always was there to make me smile. even though it has been many, many years, i remember everything she did for me and i am thankful. she was just a great person. karina sellhorn, ship delta zeta…

  91. Althea says:

    In looking up old friends from high school, I came upon this sad and devastating news about Jen. Jen and I were on the swim team together. I remember senior year, we captains gathered at her house to make banners and posters to decorate the school and we spent most of the time laughing. She had the most infectious smile and laugh of anyone I ever knew. She could lift your spirits with just one smile. She was an inspiration to everyone who knew her. As we gather for our 20th reunion next year, we will miss Jen but we will know that she is with us in spirit. Please know that I will keep the family in my prayers.

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