Thank you for your unbelievable support. Jen would have been so proud to have 77 comments on just one of her posts! You probably didn’t know this but we had an ongoing competition on who could get the most comments on her posts. Well this time she wins!
The services were beautiful and the party on Friday night was such a “Bunich” style event. Every detail was perfect and all about her. It even had the pink and green Charlotte Smarty Pants theme decorated throughout. It made me happy and feel a little more at peace.
Jen had a very aggressive lung cancer called adenocarcinoma. She was a non-smoker and we just don’t know how she got it. The doctors said that she may have had this for a year or so. This has completely blown me away because she only started showing symptoms just before Christmas. She had an annoying cough, one that I will never forget. Not a congested cough or even an allergy cough, just a different cough. She was also very fatigued but we all thought that she was just overdoing it with her holiday preparations and maybe she was coming down with a cold or virus of some sort. I remember a week before she went to the doctor, she came over to my house for a play date. When she climbed the stairs carrying Claire, she was completely winded. I said, girl, you need to get that checked out. But I really didn’t think much about it. Jen went to the doctor eventually and had a chest x-ray which revealed a large mass on one of her lungs. What really baffles me was the lack of urgency that her doctors had with regard to getting a biopsy done. This is where the first of many divine interventions occurred. You see, Jen was an amazing person who could handle anything. But the only thing that would have crushed her to no end would have been to learn that she had a terminal illness and would leave her beautiful little girl and husband behind. I’m sure we could all say the same for ourselves. So her biopsy was delayed for a few days and in the end, she never found out that she had lung cancer. This gives me a sense of peace because even if she found out the very first time she went to the doctor, there was nothing that could have been done to save her. The cancer was too aggressive and advanced, so it’s best in the end that she didn’t know.
I truly believe that Jen was here on earth for a short period of time for a purpose. I had the privilege of being engrossed in the preparations which was very therapeutic and enlightening. I always knew Jen was an amazing, accomplished woman. But what I didn’t realize, was how many people she fostered relationships with and how many wonderful things she was doing at any given time. I came to the conclusion that she was and is an angel to so many people. Over the last month, she had so many things happening in preparation for her departure. I think it’s more than coincidence. And this makes me happy.
So, I’m back. I have a good line-up for the upcoming weeks and I hope you’ll continue to read CSP. I want to emphasize that we have always been open to suggestions on topics to feature. Charlotte Smarty Pants is just as much your website as it is mine. What makes it so special is how we all have worked together to build an informative, powerful website that brings women together. So if you have an idea, email here and we will read it and research it.
Thank you again and have a wonderul Sunday.
Fondly, Jen P.