Girls do just want to have fun, but what about moms? I used to want to have fun all the time. I was the first person to plan the office happy hour. I loved to host “whine and cheese” and have all the girls over. I like to think that I was the life of the party, but somehow that has all changed.
First, I got married. That didn’t have too big of an impact. I was still pretty wild and crazy and my husband can attest to a few insane office Christmas parties where he wondered if I would still have a job in the morning. I eventually convinced him that binge drinking, doing karaoke and arm wrestling co-workers was acceptable in my line of work.
But then I had a child, was working diligently being a wife, my job became a “career” and the fun suddenly died. I have to admit right now, I am a lethargic buzz kill. I don’t want to stay out late because the baby will be up early. I don’t want to drink too much because I can’t face my day with even the slightest of hangovers. Getting through the day with a toddler is hard enough. Can I get an AMEN?!?!
Somehow time just slips by; the monotony of responsibilities rules. I feel like a hamster stuck on the wheel. Baby laundry is Thursday night. Towels and sheets are done on Friday. Socks, underwear and PJ’s get washed on Saturday. Grocery shopping is on Sunday. In between is work, cooking, cleaning and child care. Where does fun fit in? I’m constantly thinking about my to-do-list, and I fear I am headed on a one way train to Boring-ville.
I have to get off this train. I’m too young to be this lame. Fun has to become a priority. Girlfriends need to be seen more often. Family is great, but this mama needs something else in her life! From this point forward I am vowing to have more fun. I’m pulling out the social calendar and getting some things on there that I will look forward to. It’s amazing how one dinner out with friends can change your whole outlook. So put down that laundry basket, get your eye brows waxed and plan a date night or a girls’ night! We all deserve it.
I’ve been feeling this way since giving birth myself! I guess I kinda needed to grow up and quickly realized that once you become a mom, nothing is ever about you anymore! As the kids have gotten a little older, I have gotten a TINY bit more of “me-time”, but not like I should. It’s all about scheduling quality time with the important people in your life. If it doesn’t make the family calendar, then it doesn’t happen!
Love this Lisa…and yes, as the kids get older you want to do more and will make more time for yourself…although, I still like to get to bed early..mothering all day does take it out of you 🙂
My thoughts exactly! I feel like a complete buzz-kill these days. I’ve been in such a foul mood over the past few days because of the bleepin’ fireworks everywhere. Don’t people realize there are pets and children who need to sleep? Not to mention completely exhausted parents. Everyone else seems to be able to go with the flow. I wish I could be more relaxed about our schedules. However, experience has shown that when bedtime, naptime, routine, and quiet time get disrupted, I will be the one to pay the price.
Anyway, your suggestion to put something social on the calendar sounds like a great idea. It doesn’t have to be something elaborate; just something to look forward to. I am on it! Thanks.
Sounds like the older my child gets the easier it is to make some me-time. Good to hear ladies!!
My girlfriends and I plan a monthly girl’s night out – always the third Thursday so we know when it’s going to be and less excuse not to go. And we pick a new restaurant we haven’t tried, share food and drinks lots of wine!
Tonight is Girl’s Night Out! Getting back in the game and getting some gal time is essential. Motto in our house: Happy wife, happy life.