By Rachel H
A few weeks ago, a group of my girlfriends got into a discussion about “push presents.” If you have never heard this term before, it refers to a gift given to a mom (usually by the dad) after giving birth to a child. These presents are traditionally jewelry or a trip.
Well, the discussion got very heated with many different opinions and I could not believe how passionate some people were about this topic! Wow! We had one end of the spectrum with mothers who felt that the gift was well-deserved after nine months of carrying the baby and hours of delivery. They felt that the gift was not only deserved, but expected.
Then we had a group who thought the push present was the most ridiculous thing they had ever heard of and that the child should be present enough. This group also felt that the final “gift” of pregnancy was something that was deserved by both parents, and that a healthy child was a perfect gift.
But what about the people who tried umpteen times to have a baby and went through years and years of heartache? Another group of my girlfriends thought this group deserved a present.
Then there was my friend who said the husband was the one who deserved a gift for putting up with her crankiness for nine months!
Needless to say, I thought this would be a perfect hot topic for today. I would love to hear what you all think about a push present. Have you heard of this before? Or better yet, had your husband heard of this before? Did you get one? If so, what was it? It you didn’t get one, were you disappointed?
Chime in below and PLEASE remember to treat others’ comments with respect! Remember … to each his own!
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I kind of think they are silly. However, my husband bought me a day at the spa after my son was born, and I certainly enjoyed it. 🙂
I don't necessarily think I deserve one, but I did get a locket from my husband with our first child's initials in it. Then he added a locket each time we had another child. Very sentimental and sweet.
I had a friend who received a mink coat! I didn't expect a gift, but I was thrilled to receive a mother's bracelet with my son's name on it, and with each child my husband has remembered to update the bracelet. To each his own. Some couples are big on gifts, and some aren't.
No push presents here. One boy, one girl. That's all I needed. Oh! And the not being pregnant anymore. :D!
When my first daughter was born, I received a necklace with her birthstone in it. When my second daughter was born in the same month, I was given matching earrings. I didn't expect them, but I love them!
I didn't technically get a "push" gift, but I did get some cool pieces after children that reminds me of them. For example, one child's birthstone is a ruby, one is a pearl, so I started getting a few pieces with these stones, which I can pass on to them later. My favorite "push" type gift that wasn't around with my first is that Heather Moore jewelry line (I've blogged about this a zillion times!). I'm tellin' ya, it's the PERFECT push gift. You customize it how you like with your children's name/birthdate, etc. Then you can pass the discs down to them when they get older. It's perfect, so pretty, looks great casual or dressed up in the little black dress. I wear mine every day. The beauty of this necklace is that if your hubby was in the know on Child #1, it wouldn't be that expensive. If you go backwards like I did, the price adds up quickly! Then, when you give birth to # 2, 3 and so on, all you need is a simple disc to add to your necklace. Heather Moore is only available in Charlotte at Nesting in Specialty Shops.
I wish this title of this article did not include the word "deserve." It seems that a "push" present should really just be something memorable to signify the day of your child's birth whether it's a piece of jewelry, a day at the spa, etc…..
A favorite story of mine is one of my coworkers talking about this, she said…."my neighbor and I had daughters about the same time, she got a rolls royce after her daughter was born, I got hemorrhoids". I still laugh when I think about her telling it.
A favorite story of mine is one of my coworkers talking about this, she said…."my neighbor and I had daughters about the same time, she got a rolls royce after her daughter was born, I got hemorrhoids". I still laugh when I think about her telling it.
I got a right hand diamond ring for the first baby and an expensive piece of exercise equipment for the second–huh
I agree with the comment above. I don't think it should be positioned as something you deserve, but rather something that is a gift to signify something extremely special in your life. My husband got me a nice little pendant with my son's birthstone – something I cherish deeply and hope to maybe pass down to him one day. Then I got something similar when my daughter was born. I wear one or the other nearly every day!