Today’s blog by Lisa is another Smarty perspective and perfect follow-up to Susan’s great blog last week on “To Three or Not to Three“…keep those comments coming, we LOVE hearing from you all!!!
My daughter turned one a couple of weeks ago, and apparently that starts open season on my procreation plans. It was like a flip was switched and the world wants to know when we were having Baby Number Two. My reaction six out of seven days of the week is – “We’re done at one.” This sends people straight over the edge. Most state confidently that I CAN’T just have one. It’s un-American; it’s against human nature; it’s a sin of some kind.
Why can’t I be one and done? I’m 35 for Pete’s sake. I have a sneaking suspicion my ovaries may have already made the decision for me.
But beyond biology, I’m not sure it’s in my heart. I am so happy, so thankful, so fulfilled by life with my daughter and husband. I don’t want for more. So why not let sleeping babies lie?
And if I’m being totally honest, I sometimes struggle to keep up with one. Balancing work and business travel, my household, being a wife, mother, sister and blogger is a lot. I felt guilty the night I sat in Burtucci’s in Warwick, RI and listened to my tired and stressed husband relive the evening with a cranky baby he struggled to get to bed. And again when I missed the 12 month pediatrician’s appointment because I was at a sales conference; it is those moments when I say I’m good with one. I am meant to have just one.
Even as I lie on the couch watching television and typing this blog, my husband is giving me reasons why we should have two children. His last rational was that we can’t play doubles in tennis as a family of three. Apparently our only option is Canadian doubles and that is not fun. Over the weekend when the weather man kept talking about snow in the forecast, Ed informed me that if we only have one child, I will have to ride on the ski lift alone because he is riding with Katherine. Apparently a three-seat chair lift is rare. Sort of like my current decision to have just one.