By Allison Riley, PhD, Girls on the Run International
One of my two-year-old daughter’s favorite activities is playing with blocks. She enjoys exploring their shape and texture as well as sorting them by color and size. Her ultimate fun is tower building. Since her ability to stack began to bud, she’s spent countless hours stacking and stacking, working her hardest to build an even taller tower. As she stacks blocks on top of one another, I can see the range of emotions crossing her face and, when each tower ultimately comes crashing down, these feelings, particularly frustration, are often magnified.
As I sit on the floor alongside my daughter and observe her structural pursuits, I recognize her effort and remind her of her personal improvement. “You could stack 5 blocks last week and now you can stack 10 blocks. Wow!” Each time her tower falls I encourage her to keep trying and, occasionally, I show her different ways to stack the blocks.
What I am attempting to do, even at this young age, is to create a mastery motivational climate. Perhaps you haven’t heard this specific term before, but the underlying concept is likely a familiar one. In a mastery climate, the emphasis is placed on personal improvement and effort, and mistakes are seen as learning opportunities.
A performance climate, the opposite of a mastery climate, focuses on competition and favorable comparison to others. In the example above, I would instead make the tallest tower I could and define success for my daughter by comparing the height of her tower to the height of mine. Instead of focusing on her growing skill, I would turn tower-building into a lopsided competition. Hopefully we can agree that this approach would not be effective (or pleasant) with my toddler. Why, then, is it so common in youth sports?
As a parent, caretaker or coach, here’s what you can do to create a mastery climate for the kids in your life:
1. Reflect on your own experience in sport and physical activity as a kid. Gaining an awareness of how your own experiences might influence the environment you’re creating for your kids is a critical first step. After you reflect on your experience and the feelings that those experiences evoked, commit to doing things differently if needed. Just because you were constantly compared to others doesn’t mean it has to be that way for your kids.
2. Recognize effort and personal improvement. In many youth physical activity contexts, only the best athletes are praised and encouraged (performance climate). If we want all kids to have a good experience with physical activity, this is not the most effective approach. When you talk to your kid after a game, instead of asking if they won or who scored the most goals, ask them how they think they improved and if they tried their best.
3. Provide opportunities to practice skills. In a mastery climate, the focus is on learning, so it’s important that kids have a chance to practice their newly developed skills. As a parent, you can help your kids grow by taking some time to work individually with them outside of the practice or game setting. Read More →
We have the BEST news for our Smarty families with kids at Charlotte Pediatrics. The Weekend Sick Clinic at the SouthPark office is now accepting reservations online for established patients to reserve appointments on Saturdays and Sundays from 8-11:45 AM. We LOVE this new capability!
To reserve an appointment time, call 704-367-7400 or reserve your spot online here.
You can visit the weekend sick clinic to treat:
– Abdominal pain – recent onset
– Coughing or wheezing
– Ear pain
– Eye redness or drainage
– Nasal congestion
– Sore throat
– Vomiting or diarrhea
– Urinary symptoms
Thank you, Charlotte Pediatrics! Love, the Smarty Moms of Charlotte
4501 Cameron Valley Pkwy.
Charlotte, NC 28211
Sleep and I were once in love. We spent hours together, sometimes half the day. Judging from the amount of time we were together, you would think we were forever inseparable. It was glorious looking back; I was really, really good at sleeping. Then everything changed about ten years ago forever (prior to that, my sleep was poor but I didn’t need as much).
Since that dreadful first night of poor sleep, tossing and turning, I have always maintained that “tonight will be the night I sleep really, really well.” I mean this certainly can’t go on forever. While ten years is not forever, it is forever to an insomniac. You see, when you don’t sleep well, your brain mashes everything up into a giant brain game where you have to sort everything out.
About a year ago, I made the concrete decision to not talk about my poor relationship with sleep anymore. I didn’t want to be labeled or known as “the poor sleeper.” I also recognized how I was overstaying my welcome with all my sleep talks with friends. It’s not that they weren’t concerned, rather they were tired of my conversation being set on repeat. And by talking about it so frequently, I was in a way creating a self fulfilling prophecy. Obsessions are only productive when it applies to vocations. I even decided to halt telling my family how truly tired I was most days, continuing to try to “fake it until I make it.”
When doctors ask me if I have trouble falling asleep or staying asleep, I answer “C, all of the above.” I may not fall asleep until 2 AM, I may fall asleep at 10:30 PM and then be wide awake until 2 AM, or I may never get into a deep sleep at all. The irony is that despite how tired I am during the evening, once I go to bed, I am wide awake. Why does my brain want to be so productive during the evening! Doesn’t my brain know that I have to be a mom the next day, work, and be on 100% all day! Read More →
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We’re continuing our New Year’s resolution fitness giveaway today with Pure Barre Charlotte! Today we talk to Casie Petty, owner of Pure Barre Charlotte, on what makes Pure Barre different. Enjoy getting to know Casie, and keep checking back with CSP for more fun fitness giveaways (if you missed the first one, check it out here!).
Just to have fun! Don’t take your first class to seriously. Every client is in there to get a good workout and to support each other. Just relax and the teachers guide you though the rest.
We encourage you to do what you can! We never want to push anyone to hard so that they have a bad experience. We want to create a comfortable environment and support system for the clients to only grow stronger. Read More →
By our Smarty friends at Charlotte Eye Ear Nose & Throat Associates, P.A.
While you’re in the whirlwind of the holiday season, it’s easy to forget some of the more mundane parts of life, like your healthcare benefits. But if your benefits include a flexible spending account, you’ll want to use that money before the end of the year. Fortunately, CEENTA has several great ways to spend your FSA dollars.
New glasses: You’re going to see your friends and family a lot more this holiday season, so why not see them clearly? You can come to any of CEENTA’s optical locations and get 25 percent off a new set of prescription glasses. Also, if you want to make sure your prescription is up to date, be sure to request an appointment with one of our eye doctors first.
New hearing aids: From carolers to conversations with family, there’s a lot to hear during the holidays. You may also have older relatives who are starting to lose their hearing. Since hearing is tied to both mental and emotional health, our physicians and audiologists will work together to address your hearing concerns and fit you with hearing aids that best suit your needs. Once your tests are complete, you can purchase hearing aids for 10 percent off at any of our offices that offer audiology services. Read More →
By Smarty Guest Blogger, Sheila Fassler, RN, founder and owner of Pediatric Hair Solutions
As winter approaches, so does the potential for head lice. Lice is common in the colder months as kids spend time in closer quarters, families gather for the holidays, and hats and scarves are worn and shared.
Don’t worry, you don’t have to quarantine your child until spring to avoid getting head lice. Follow these helpful tips to prevent the pesky parasite from finding their way to your child’s head this winter.
No matter the season, direct head-to-head contact is the primary reason that head lice spreads from one person to another. Teach your children to avoid close hugs, snuggles and selfies whenever possible.
While it is less common for lice to spread through clothing, your child should not share hats or any winter clothing that comes in contact with hair.
If your child wears a winter jacket or hat to school, tell them it’s best to keep it zipped up in their backpack. If the weather warms up by the time recess rolls around, tell your child to avoid tossing their jacket or hat in a community pile on the recess field.
If you have a daughter, it’s a good idea to keep her hair in a tight bun or braid. Loose hair is much more likely to come in contact with hair from another child or adult with an active case of head lice.
Lice have an acute sense of smell. They do not like the scent of mint, rosemary or tea tree oil. It’s best to use a scented prevention product, like Pediatric Hair Solutions Mint Prevention Spray, before your child goes to school, a playdate or a sleepover.
It’s always a good idea to check your children frequently for head lice. I recommend moms designate one day a week, like Sunday nights after bath time, to do head checks. Treating head lice in its early stages keeps it from spreading to other family members and can be easier to treat.
About the Author:
Sheila Fassler, RN, worked as an Intensive Care Unit nurse and a volunteer school nurse at her children’s elementary school. She founded and owns Pediatric Hair Solutions, the only licensed health care practice dedicated to the professional treatment of head lice, located in South Charlotte, Lake Norman and 6 other locations in the Carolinas. Sheila attended Akron University College of Nursing. After marrying her husband, the two moved to the Carolinas to start a family. The couple’s two children both attend the University of South Carolina.
Welcome Home Dr. Temple!
I can’t exactly remember how many years ago it was, let’s say more than 5 less than 12, but I will never forget the conversation between my neighbor’s husband and mine. Our children were little which meant, we all “lived” at the pediatrician’s office with some sort of funk. Upon my neighbors return from the Saturday Sick Clinic one day he eagerly explained to my husband that, “Salma Hayek was our doctor!” If having “Salma” as your doctor meant you were going to take the kids to the doctor, go, please, go take them! I’ll be at home sitting on the couch binge watching HGTV. I immediately knew who he was referring to and was hopeful that my husband would want to jump on the “Salma” bandwagon and take the kids to the Saturday sick clinic as needed. Who was I to explain that “Salma” is not there every Saturday, it was just her on call weekend, let the boys take their chances.
Fast forward to my oldest was in 7th grade a few years ago and she came home to tell me she has been invited to, “Jake’s house for a pool party”. I had never heard of Jake, but I was learning fast that after your children have exited elementary school, you learn a new classmate’s name here and there, if you’re lucky. Our conversation went something like this:
“Jake Temple, Mom. He’s a kid at my school, gosh.”
“Where does he live? Will his parents be there? What other girls are going? What times? Is it his birthday, do we need to buy him a present? Who is this kid, you have never mentioned him before?”
Her answers were filled with sighs and much eye rolling and when she said, “Mom, stop being so overprotective, like his mom is a doctor or something, so I’m sure it will be fine.”
Ta Da! Yes, my darling, his mom is a “doctor or something”, a pediatrician to be exact, and she has helped you and your sister out in the past. You go and have fun, but I’m still walking you to the door.
Y’all, when I met Jake, I told Molly later that he looked like a young Keanu Reeves, she had to google Keanu…. and I got some more eye rolls.
The Temple family is beautiful on the inside and out. Enjoy getting to know Ana Maria Temple and the adventure the Temple family has been living the past 14 months. Read More →
Don’t miss this week’s School Open Houses we’ve listed below. This is NOT the full Open House listing for each school or school system – it’s just this week’s. For our full listing of open houses, please see our 2017 Smarty School Open House Guide.
Experiential Information Sessions
Saturday, December 9, 2017 @ 10 a.m.
Every day is an Open House at PES – tours scheduled at your convenience.
Register for any of these events at www.pescharlotte.org/upcoming-events
For more information, please contact Monique Gilbert at email@example.com or 704.583.1825.
By our Smarty friends at Charlotte Eye Ear Nose & Throat Associates, P.A.
Do your parents have dark circles around their eyes? Do they look tired even if they got a full night’s sleep? Do they have difficulty seeing out of the corners of their eyes? If so, the skin around their eyes may have started to sag or the fat has started to protrude, and it may be time to talk to them about a facial plastics procedure called blepharoplasty.
As we age, the skin around our eyes becomes lax and stretches. The fat, which normally sits around the eyeball, herniates through weaknesses in the fine membranes, resulting in visible lumps or bulges. These changes tend to narrow our eyes. While these changes are inherited in some cases, for most people they start to develop in their early 30s. Not only can this make our eyes look smaller and tired, in some cases it can impair our peripheral vision. Peripheral vision is the ability to see things to the sides of us when we are looking straight ahead. Read More →
This Thanksgiving, CycleBar Waverly and CycleBar Midtown CLT are giving thanks in a big way with FREE RIDES! The Smarties are LOVING CycleBar and are beyond grateful to them for this incredible deal. Come to either studio to sweat away your holiday-induced stress, regain your sanity, and do it all FOR FREE! Bring your friends, bring your family, bring any ol’ turkeys you can find—and get ready to ride free and gobble ‘til you wobble. We will see you there!
Thanksgiving: 7:00am, *8:00am Endurance – Rock the Bird, 9:30am
Black Friday:7:00am, 8:00am, 9:30am
Saturday, November 25: 8:00am, 9:30am, 10:45am
Sunday, November 26: 9:00am, 10:15am Read More →