This happens to me twice a year, on February 4th and September 10th. For those of you who have read CSP since the beginning, you will know these days all too well. On February 4th, 2008 we lost our beloved co-founder to non-smoking lung cancer. And September 10th is her birthday. She would have been 42. I miss her dearly, and still feel that void in my life.
I have poured my heart and soul into this pink & green site for 6 years now and two times a year, I find myself in a funk. I’m moody, intolerant of even the slightest mishaps and often feeling “woe is me.” Totally not my typical, upbeat self. It usually lasts a good two weeks and I’m not really aware of it until I take a break and check the date. And then it hits me. All over again. Like it did on February 4th, 2008 when I wrote this blog.
I’ve got a lot on my plate right now so maybe I am relishing the “funk” a little longer, just until the end of today, promise:-) So here goes. We’ve had some snotty comments lately on some of our blog posts that have been weighing on me. You’d think after 6 years, my skin would be as thick as a tree. But it’s not. I take every comment to heart and try to do a better job with the next post, as does our entire team. But I want to take a moment and reflect on a few of the comments because they seem to have a common thread – that CSP is a team of rich, upper class chics that have “more money than brains.” Yep, that was a comment two weeks ago. We couldn’t be more opposite.
Our team is comprised of economic diversity. We have women who work full-time, we have women who work three jobs, and yes we have some women who do enjoy an upscale living. But we don’t look at ourselves as any different from each other. You see, we are in this mommyhood journey together, through sickness and in health, through thick and thin, for better or for worse. And we’re embarking on this journey in the amazing city of Charlotte, NC. How lucky are we?
I personally have had some hard economic times lately that I have deliberately chosen not to share. But maybe in sharing, you might get a better picture of who Jen Plym is. I’m just a normal middle income family, with a lot of kids. I’m a researcher and tester-outer by nature and if I can benefit from a piece of information, then I believe all of Smarty Charlotte deserves the same chance. In my previous life (that would be pre-kids), I did enjoy some of the finer things, we both had great jobs, no kids and a lot of time. Four kids and the biggest recession of our lifetime will derail that money train in a heartbeat and bring a new perspective on life! I’m not rich. I’m not elite. And I certainly don’t try to be. My hubby lost his job last April (that would be 15 months ago, but I’m not counting:-), he now works with me, which has been a blessing. It’s not easy, lemme tell ya – we spend 24/7 together, we raise our kids together and I’ve created a business that wraps around raising our kids together. Sometimes, it’s a bit much, not gonna sugarcoat it. But I couldn’t be more proud of where I am today. I love my life and wouldn’t change a thing – we have our health and a beautiful family and that’s all I need. My hubby likes to call it “rich in love”!
This little business that started as a fun blog between two besties, is now feeding my family. When I don’t have my head in the computer, I’m either frequenting our awesome business partners around the city or I’m on the soccer fields, or carpooling to and from dance and field hockey. I have a heart of gold and my mission is still the same as it was on day 1 of CSP – to give Charlotte moms a voice and a platform to share information on what’s trending from pregnancy to now high school. We cover diverse editorial that is relevant to all income levels and lifestyles. When we feature a business, we DO NOT invite you to bash the business in any way, shape or form (or the blogger for that matter!). We DO invite you to share your stories and your feelings in our comments and on facebook/instagram/pinterest, just be non judgmental and think of how your words can sting. As a writer, and I’m positive all of my CSP writers would agree, nothing can make your day more than fun comments on your blog post of the day. WE LIVE FOR THAT!
My motto is “if you don’t have anything positive to say, then keep it to yourself.” That is threaded throughout CSP, my family, my friends and my business partners. So in the future, when you’re feeling a little blue, please don’t take it out on my site. That is not why I created Charlotte Smarty Pants. I want this to be the happy Southern place for all moms to hang – we’re here to lift each other up, offer advice and ideas for things that worked or didn’t. Remember, we’re all in this together.
What I’m feeling is the need for a big pink & green hug, and I couldn’t have picked a better day than on Jen’s 42nd birthday! Here’s an upbeat song that was one of her favorites. Enjoy. xo, Jen